As you've progressed through your style journey, you've probably learned how to dress appropriate for the company and environment. How has your style journey influenced your default style (in no specific company or environment) either at home or in public? For me, I used to the typical whatever jeans and graphic shirt guy (Yea....I know....but we all start somewhere). Now my default is slightly improved: nicer jeans (darker with no wear marks) and a nice solid black shirt or polo.

Good afternoon Gentlemen, I just wanted to post about 2 things this afternoon, gratitude and revelation. I have been here for a few weeks watching, observing, interacting on a few posts that spoke to me and something amazing happened to me this last weekend. It’s a culmination of a truth I have been seeking for my entire life. So before I celebrate my win, I want to thank you all for your willingness to be vulnerable and your insight on how a man dresses is a representation of who he is on the inside. I came from a really traumatic childhood, a broken home with a missing father, I don’t need to go into the details but if you are even slightly aware of the psychological and neurological damage that occurs when a young man has no beneficial male figure in his life than you know, my masculinity has taken a long time to form. I turn 31 this year and only the last 4 years have I truly began to live, part of my story is that I survived a suicide attempt in 2022 and that was probably the first day that I actually started to live. It has been slow, I have had to put in a lot of work and expose myself to tons of new information and a lot of that has forced me to grow and be very uncomfortable around other very masculine men who were firm in their identity. I realized as I was looking at my closet this last weekend that I didn’t have any clothes I chose for myself, it’s all clothes given to me by other people, no intention, no identity. So I ordered 10 basic shirts that are solid colors representing I am a new man building and discovering myself. In a moment of inspiration and emotion I cleared out over 200 pieces of clothing, shirts, pants, suits, ties, the whole 9 of every single thing I didn’t like, or was gifted to me by people who wanted me to dress like them and gave it all away at a drop off. Now while that may be nothing for some but I realized the intent behind this community at the same time….after 31 years of life, I can confidently say for the first time ever I am happy with my clothing and can’t wait to intentionally build my style. Thank you all and thank you for being men amongst men. God bless, have a great week.