I’m not going to throw anyone under the bus, but a brother reached out to me directly and said he was tired of certain posts and certain people. He asked me how I could keep engaging with a particular brother and even suggested I should boycott that person’s posts. I ignored the message, but I want to say this publicly: This is a Brotherhood of Scent, not a gang. I am not here for followers, I am here to exchange opinions and knowledge. If I want followers, I can start a YouTube Channel !!! I’m not participating in cliques, group pressure, or ganging up on individuals. I’m here for one reason only: the shared love of fragrance. Looking around, it’s obvious there is sometimes an “us against them” mentality here, and it’s a shame. You can see it in the posts, the comments, the likes, the alliances, and the way some people purposely ignore others. It happens to me, it happens to others, and it happens more than some people want to admit. It's even more ironic that the person who reached out to me is one of the biggest offenders. I can’t tell people how to think, but if this is your mentality, you may want to re-examine your values. I will engage with anyone here, whether I agree with them or not. If someone disagrees with me, I’ll either re-examine my own point of view or I’ll respond respectfully. That is how discussion is supposed to work. As the saying goes, you like what you like. In my world, I’m always searching for the very best, whether that means the best clone, the best niche, or the best designer. That’s how I enjoy this hobby. Differences of opinion are not a problem for me. They are welcomed, respected, and worth exploring. A lot of times, hearing a different perspective has taught me something valuable or even changed my direction. I would much rather someone challenge my fragrance selections or disagree with me in a real way that helps me grow my collection! rather than just being a yes man. If you give me input, or I give you input, and it goes against either one of our opinions—whether it is about quality, value, or fragrance selection—it is welcomed. My response is not going to be hurt feelings. My response is going to be: " Why do you feel that way? You are not going to hurt my feelings. Either the conversation helps me grow my fragrance knowledge, or I stay the course because it is simply something I want to do. Either way, it is not going to make me lose sleep, and it is definitely not going to make me lose interest in the group.

Well gang, about 2 weeks ago, I decided to step back from BoS for a bit and reflect on the direction it is going because I feel it is going in a direction that is no longer enjoyable and the ship is about to crash a shore. This was my getaway from my normal life, and the day to day BS. I love everything from the $20 Cremo to my almost $500 bottles which includes many niches, ME dupes and of course Dua. Unfortunately, the constant expectation to meet standards, people who flex and crap on those who are not on the same level, the constant lecturing and crapping on people's posts, etc. have ruined BoS. It no longer became enjoyable to share something you like or love and you stop to think about, did I meet someone's expectation? will someone crap on my fragrance because its a brand they dont like? or because the quality is not to their expectations? I know this behavior was brought to @Antonio Centeno attention and some admin/moderators, but no action was taken and it has now spiraled out. I don't know if they even care as long as people are paying up. Sometimes it feels like the people who pay up, feel entitled to do what they want and no one will say otherwise. There were many of us who were very active, have just been dropping like flies over the past couple months and it truly saddens me. I have been here almost 2 years and have learned so much and built many great relationships along the way. There is the hopeful in me that thinks we can rally and turn the ship around and the other thinks it is just doomed to crash among the rocks all the while we see the captain is not even piloting. I wanted to put this out there as many of you have reached out to me to check in and it is that level of care, that makes me appreciative and hopeful for the brotherhood. You know who you are, thank you!!! I haven't jumped ship yet, but to be honest, I am at the rails with my life vest on.

What to say in your intro? Share where you're from, your reason for joining, perhaps your favorite fragrance, watch or a picture of you dressed sharp! It's a small action, but a HUGE step in you getting value from this community becasue you go from being a lurker to an ACTIVE member. In fact men that introduce themselves are 10X more likely to the actions to becoming their best selves. Bonus Point - By introducing yourself you're guaranteed to level-up. Seriously, you'll get at least 5-20 likes/points (oftentimes more) which will move you to level 2 and possibly level 3. And just like that you have access to more of this community!

This Tuesday, April 7th at 5PM Central US, we're doing something a little different — and way more fun. Instead of bringing in another outside expert… we're putting the spotlight on our own members. 🎉 Three guys from right inside this community are stepping up to share their real experiences — and honestly? These are always our best sessions. No scripts. No slides. Just real talk from real people who've been on the same journey as you. Meet Your Guest Speakers: - Style: @Brian McGuire - Fragrance: @Renato Carotti - Watches: @Jeffrey Plotka They'll be sharing how they got started, what they've learned along the way, what's worked, what most guys still get wrong - and everything in between. If you've ever wanted to hear from guys who are actually living this stuff (not just teaching it), this is the one to show up for. Come hang, ask questions, and be part of the conversation. 👊 Join the call here: https://www.skool.com/bos/calendar?eid=7f86f9b34d1c4c36b498fe377e5674a8 See you there! 🙌