How to stop emotions & RSD from ruining your day in under 3 minutes
@John Whyman @Pat Cast @Sara Edvardsson @Anouchka Hanneman @Sara Ellisson @Nic F @Cindy Mason @Pamela Saintonge @Raven Payne @Mads Munk tagging you all because you brought up emotions, RSD, overwhelm, or self-sabotage. We literally covered this in yesterday's Q&A and I want to make sure everyone gets the core insight, whether you were there live or not. The big reframe: RSD and emotional overwhelm almost always trace back to self-worth and self-image. When someone triggers you, the real issue isn't what they did. It's that in that moment, you don't feel worthy or good enough. @Darci Wert shared a powerful example on the call: her boss leaned over her at the computer, corrected her way of doing something, and she spiraled into "I'm stupid, he only gave me this job out of charity." But the actual trigger wasn't him. It was her belief that her way of doing things wasn't valid, rooted in old patterns from childhood. The fish-and-tree dynamic of growing up neurodivergent in a neurotypical world. This is where the 3-Minute Comeback Protocol comes in. Here's the short version (also see the attached image below_: Step 1: Name it. What emotion is actually coming up right now? Sometimes the monkey mind takes over and we don't even know what we feel. Just naming it is already powerful. Step 2: Source it. Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and locate where you feel it in your body (throat, shoulders, chest). Then ask: is this connected to something older? A childhood pattern, a school experience, a parent dynamic? A lot of triggers tie back to not feeling worthy, people-pleasing, or only receiving love when being productive.