🌬️ Sunday Shift Nerv-ember Week 4 : Less & Systems

✨ “Sometimes the calmest thing is changing the system, not working harder.” ✨

Happy Sunday Shift, friends!

Quick reminder before we dive in:

We reset every Sunday, but you do NOT have to post on Sundays. The goal is a weekly rhythm of reflection and intention that works for you. The key is a consistent day to loop in. When we close that loop and repeat, growth becomes almost inevitable. Our personal truth and insights become loud and clarity is more within reach.

And as always:

Showing up is the work. It's not about whether you “won” last week. It's about what you noticed, what you learned, and how you adjust.

If you’re here reading this, you’re doing the work. I’m proud of you. 💙

✨ TWO OPTIONS — Choose YOUR Adventure

✅ OPTION 1: Self-Led Vision (Your Main Goal Lane)

If you have a strong vision and a clear primary goal, that is still the priority. Don’t let the mini-challenge pull you away from what matters most.

👉 Create a new post, tag Shift Commitment, and share:

How last week went
Your Good / Better / Best goal for this week
The identity or direction you’re reinforcing right now

🔎 Not sure how to set a Good / Better / Best goal?

Head to Classroom → Start Here → Sunday Shifts for a quick walkthrough on the spirit of Good/Better/Best and how to set goals that work with real life.

✅ OPTION 2: Nervember Mini-Challenge

Welcome back to Steady & Strong Nervember 💙

So far this month, you’ve been:

Week 1: Noticing which nervous system modes you spend the most time in (fight, flight, freeze, fawn)
Week 2: Practicing tools that increase vagal tone / your relaxation response
Week 3: Bringing those tools into real-life moments that actually trigger you
Recap: Here

You’ve built awareness. You’ve built some skill. Now we’re going one layer deeper…

🌟 WEEK 4 FOCUS: LESS + SYSTEMS

“You’re usually a few strategic moves away from a life that feels at least a little bit better.”

We’re not pretending hard seasons disappear. We’re not pretending everything becomes easy.

But from where you are right now, there are usually a few strategic changes that can ease the load on your nervous system in a big way.

Your nervous system tools help you cope in the moment. But sometimes, the most regulating move is to change the system that’s heavy in the first place.

This week is about:

Noticing themes
Applying the 80/20 rule
Exploring what you can delete, delegate, or systematize

🧠 Reflection: Your 80/20 Nervous System Audit

You’ve been reflecting all month on:

How do different nervous system modes feel in your body
What tends to pull you into stress or reactivity

Now I want you to zoom out and ask:

Are there themes in your life or areas that carry a big mental load for you? Where does your brain keep returning… even when you’re not actively dealing with it?

Think about:

Food (meal planning, groceries, “what’s for dinner?”)
Work (emails, scheduling, deadlines)
Home tasks (laundry, mess, kids’ logistics)
Relationships (communication gaps, invisible workload)
Health (appointments, labs, trying to “do it all”)

Then layer the 80/20 lens:

What’s the 20% that’s impacting 80% of your nervous system load right now?

It might be one conversation you’re avoiding. One system that doesn’t exist yet. One decision you’re postponing. One area where the mental load is just… heavy.

🛠️ From Insight → Systems

Sometimes, learning to regulate is enough. Sometimes, we also have to look at what needs to change.

This week, ask yourself:

What could I delete? (Expectations, extra commitments, “shoulds” that aren’t serving me.)
What could I delegate? (Paid help, clearer division of tasks at home, better communication with a partner, asking kids to take on small jobs.)
What could I systematize or automate so it takes up less mental space?

Example: If food is taking up a huge mental load, could you:

create a simple Week 1 / Week 2 rotating menu
save the grocery lists for each week
alternate them for a season and stop reinventing the wheel?

That’s just one example. There are a million variations. The point is: less swirling, more structure.

🧩 Your Good / Better / Best for Week 4

This week we continue building nervous-system capacity by practicing short, consistent, grounded check-ins, using whatever regulating tool you’ve chosen (breathing, humming, body scan, long exhale, etc.).

✅ GOOD

Practice your regulating tool for 5–10 minutes once a day(proactive, not just when stressed)

✅ BETTER

Practice your regulating tool for 5–10 minutes more than once a day(ex: morning + evening, or midday + bedtime)

✅ BEST

Practice your regulating tool 5–10 minutes more than once a day AND use it during at least one tricky or activating situation(real-life friction = real nervous-system growth)

+ REFLECTION TASK AND SYSTEMS Thinking.

💬 To join, comment below:

Comment “I’m in for Week 4” and share:

Your Good / Better / Best plan
The 20% area you’re choosing (where the mental load is highest)
Whether you’re leaning toward delete, delegate, or systematize
One small change or experiment you’re considering

Then comment on 2 other posts!

Example:

I’m in for Week 4!

Tell us what you have noticed while practicing nervous regulating tools? How has your body shifted?

If you already know what domain your 20% feels like, and you're committed to giving this some brainstorming and system-building reflection time?

This week is about recognizing that your nervous system doesn’t exist in a vacuum; it operates within the context of real life. And sometimes feeling stuck is also the nudge and hint that something needs to change.

Let’s make that life even a little bit easier, more supported, and more systematized. Your future nervous system will thank you.

PS: Check it out here: We have a contest going on! When I started this journey 2 months ago, I really wanted to celebrate my early leaders. On Nov 30th my top 3 Lifetime leaderboard will get a real Amazon gift card as a thank you for showing up and leading the way. I know in my heart of hearts that the best is yet to come, and I've been blown away to see the insight people have gained for themselves by showing up consistently already:

and many more :) A sincere thank you from the bottom of my heart.

💙 Mel

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