Evening, brothers. Simple question which I’d love for you all to contribute towards… Why are you here in StrongDads? I won’t give anything else as I don’t want to lead or influence your answer. But I’d love to know, why are you a part of StrongDads? Strength & Honour 🔱

Write down your Physical Leadership Statement — a 2–3 sentence declaration of why you are committing to your physical health. Not what you want to look like. Why it matters for your family. Keep it somewhere visible: your phone wallpaper, your bathroom mirror, your wallet. Here's my example. "My physical health is who I am, and I am nothing - a liability and emotional concern - without it. I understand my role and duty as a man and father - to provide, to protect, to lead and to love. And with the world in it's current sh*t state, I carry that load to ensure that I am ready to protect my family. There is much evil in the world, and I am the shield. And day to day I see how beneficial my physical health is to my family, when I have presence, health, energy, and vitality. Regardless of protection, I am a better man with optimised physical health. My family deserves me at my absolute best, every day." Mine is mine, and yours may be completely different. But none are wrong. Feel free to share yours with your brothers here.

Every year around this time, millions of people voluntarily give something up for Lent. Not because it is easy. Because it is useful. And whether you are religious or not, there is something deeply powerful in the act of fasting. At its core, fasting is not about deprivation. It is about remembering that comfort does not have to be in charge. Modern life is engineered for convenience. Food is always available. Stimulation is constant. Distraction is endless. And without realising it, we can begin to live reactively rather than deliberately. Fasting interrupts that. When you voluntarily remove something, alcohol, snacking, scrolling, noise, you begin to notice things. You notice your habits. You notice your impulses. You notice how often you reach for comfort without thinking. In noticing that, something important happens. You create space between the urge and the action, that space is where discipline lives. That space is where self-mastery begins. This is not about punishment. It is about authority; quiet, calm authority over your own behaviour. It sharpens your mind, it strengthens your nervous system, it reminds you that you can endure discomfort without needing to escape it. And perhaps most importantly, it carries over into fatherhood. Your children don’t learn discipline from what you say, they learn it from what you live. When they see a man who can tolerate frustration without snapping, who doesn’t need constant distraction, who chooses restraint even when no one is watching, they absorb that. Not consciously, but deeply. You do not need to be religious to benefit from this. You only need to be willing to choose something difficult, and keep your word to yourself. It doesn’t have to be dramatic. Give up alcohol for 40 days. Give up unnecessary phone use. Give up snacking. Give up complaining. Not forever, just long enough to remember who is in charge. Forty days can change more than you expect. Together Stronger 🔱

Can I ask does anyone else suffer with chronic pain that never goes away? Just looking to see how you cope or any help you have had Thanks all

In the past two weeks I have reached out to my dad ( for those that listened to me on the podcast you’ll understand the importance). It’s been a very long time and this year I have been really Focusing not just on the physical strength but mental health and strength. With that said i decided to give my dad an opportunity to fill in some gaps. I didn’t really get the response out of him that I had hoped but one thing was clear. His mental health is not in a good place. With that said i wanted to share with you guys a question that my wife and I talked about to help me through this. Since I didn’t get the answers from my dad I was hoping for and in reflection the focus should be on my purpose. For a long time I looked at it as patch up the past and get acceptance through other things but was avoiding the deep underlying question. With that said I pose this. Other than the obvious which is to be here for our family and those close to us. What is your purpose. Given the skills you have and strengths what is your purpose and how do you strive to fulfill that purpose. We have roles as husbands fathers and sons. But we have god given talents and abilities that we must use to get fulfillment from life so that we can be the best we can be in those roles. Anyone have any comments or thoughts on this. Thank you for reading and I just thought I would share this thought with the group. Stay strong brothers