From Jim's Twin: "Kimber, you booked a job. That's the line I'd underline. For weeks this was "distribute flyers," something you were pushing yourself to do with no proof it would pay off. Now it has. Two calls and a booking means the Big Rock isn't just moving, it's bringing in work. You also beat your own target by three hours. The goal was out the door by 10, and you were out at 7, walked 4 miles, went to the copy shop, and had tomorrow's flyers in the car before dinner. That's what you look like when you're running the business again. Go to bed. Audiobook, lights out, and let the 6:30 version of you take it from here. No need to answer tonight: what's the job you booked?"

I have been exploring for the past year the possibility that I have had ADHD, and that has included quite a bit of research, reading, webinars and such. About a month ago I took what was for me a brave step of approaching my mom about my thoughts on this. My mom loves me (and I, her) but we had gotten to where we have a mostly superficial relationship. I stopped sharing much personal or "deep feeling" stuff with her a long time ago, after decades of feeling like she didn't really "get me" anyway and we were too different of people. (Plus she has the habit of turning every conversation back to herself, which makes it hard for a reflective introvert like to have time to put my feelings and words together before the moment is gone.) But as I said, I approached her about a month ago to open the door on this topic. She knows little about it and I shared some reasons why I thought it applied to me and about late in life diagnosed women, etc. Skip ahead to this week, and I was watching some videos for women with ADHD or AuDHD or who are parenting girls with those traits. I carefully selected 3 videos that I thought were good introductions to my situation (late diagnosis, RSD, general info) and sent her the links and asked her to watch them if she had time. Yesterday I got a text back that said, "Thank you for sending the link to the videos on ADHD. I watched all three yesterday and took notes. I do believe you are correct in your assessment of yourself. If only we could have been enlightened many years ago. Can we talk about it when we have some time together to do so? ❤️" I cried right there in the car reading that. It was like I suddenly I had someone who had watched me my whole life who confirmed or validated what I had been thinking and that there was maybe hope to move forward with her having a greater understanding of me after a lifetime of feeling misunderstood or just unknown. I know it's not as easy as all that, but I was so encouraged by this step and that I can use this framework to explain certain things about me to her now.

Just had the loveliest half-hour body double session, and what I thought was going to be a HUGE loop of little jobs is already shrinking nicely. First bit DONE! 🎉 The Cook Street Christmas Party invite is finished. Thank you, Lindsay! @Lindsay Harvey And yes, I did it with Christmas music playing, so naturally it was much more festive. 😂🎄 Now I’ve only got 3 or 4 little steps left. More Body Doubling sessions to come for Xmas Preparations There’s something about taking a task that looks like “oh my gosh, that’s going to take 2–3 hours” and breaking it into half-hour chunks. Add a body double and suddenly it feels completely doable. One little chunk at a time. Happy days!🎄✨🎁✨🎄

Hi there all of you beautiful people!!! I feel like brand new 😃 I slept almost 10 hours last night and I loved 💕 all 10 of them!!! I'm getting addicted to sleep.... Is that going to be a problem? 🤣 All of this sleep domino stuff is just getting into my system and I'm loving it.

I had one of those lovely, completely impromptu ADHD Harmony moments this weekend. Cathy @Cathy A Castagna and I had a quick chat and I asked her if she fancied some time to focus on our Big Rock (tidying) and she said, “I’ve got a few hours spare — give me half an hour to finihs this and then we can connect to do some body doubling?” Now, we don’t usually body double on my Sunday / her Saturday, but we both had some Big Rocks around creating a calmer, more organised home environment. 𝗦𝗼 𝘄𝗲 𝗷𝘂𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗻 𝗮 𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹. Nearly three hours later… we had both made some serious inroads! 🙌 There was something really good about knowing someone else was there, doing their own thing alongside me. No need to explain, no judgement, no doing it alone. It reminded me just how much difference these connections can make. You don’t have to be in a cohort to connect with someone here. If you’ve found a buddy you click with, or someone who has a similar Big Rock, why not send them a message and suggest an impromptu body-double? A phone call. A video call. Whatever works. Sometimes three hours of “I’m here, you’re there, let’s just get stuck in” can make a world of difference. Give it a go. You might surprise yourself with what you can nail together! ❤️