I'm delighted to announce that the film we made in November last year is finished and ready to launch to the public. I'd like to say a special thanks to everyone that was vulnerable enough to share their stories - @Ben Valdovinos @Andrew Rotter @Bryant Goodall @Nick Valdovinos @Sam Johnson @Patrick Camman and to the talented team that made the film - @Marcus Ubungen @Donavan Sell This work can life changing for everyone that goes through the pain and comes out the other side. You guys are the first to see it. Please watch and let us know what you think. Watch link - https://youtu.be/4ldWtO4-Cm8

This weekend I did something I didn't think I would ever do and I got married. My history with this particular establishment is not a particularly good one. My dad has been married and divorced 3 times (on his 4th engagement) and my parents divorce was the source of most of my childhood trauma. It's fair to say I had a lot of resistance to the whole thing. I've been with Lavinia for 18 years and we have 3 amazing children. I have always been committed to the family but I always saw marriage as an unnecessary step in the relationship. I asked Lavinia to marry me around 5 years ago and thought I had got away with not getting married until a meeting with our accountant forced our hand 6 months ago (romantic, I know). This last 3 months has been a very interesting journey. It has triggered emotions from my childhood, relationships that 'might have been' have been put to bed. I have had to look deeply at the stories I had around marriage and my aversion to fully committing to my partner of 18 years. The result, as always, of moving towards and through the pain are transformational. I have further integrated the rejected boy, the 25 year old that didn't commit to his Italian girlfriend, the man that was keeping part of himself safe. I feel more grounded, more present, more committed AND I got to experience an incredible day full of love and happiness. I often preach moving towards the joy and living from this point but often this can be found on the other side of our greatest pain.

I remember meeting a musician friend of mine about 20 years ago. We met for lunch in a park in London and were talking about life/career etc. At the time I had a successful financial services business in London, I had nice suits and shiny shoes! I remember him saying how well I was doing and how jealous he was of my situation but all I could think of at the time was how lucky he was to be on the 'right' path, following his passion and expressing himself creatively. At the time I said to him 'I would rather be on the bottom rung of the right ladder, rather than the top rung of the wrong one'. I climbed many ladders until finding the right one aged 40. I knew the others were wrong because I felt it, I always had an inner voice telling me that there was something else out there for me. I just couldn't hear what it was because of all the other noise and doubt I was carrying around. How do you feel about your path? Are you 'on-purpose' or are you climbing the wrong ladder?

I'm loaded up to the brim with things I have to do. The list is long. But right now I need to focus on making dinner for my children. There's no time for me to separate myself from the family so I can meditate quietly. I'm reminding myself that I can be embodied anytime I want. I don't need to be alone and separate from all responsibilities to get that done. Focusing on my body and breath while cleaning the kitchen and preparing dinner. No podcast. No audiobook. No ruminating. Just keep coming back to the breath and the body. And then repeat over and over and over. This is something I'm working on this year. As a busy dad, this is often the only chance I'll get all day. But I tell you what, it works better than you expect.

Good morning Brothers How are you feeling this Monday morning? How do you feeling about this year? Are you feeling authentic and on the right path or have you set a load of goals that you won't achieve, again?? 😊 I have a pile of journals containing goals and positive affirmations from 15 years ago that were the same every year but nothing changed until I changed MYSELF. If you want to create any change this year then it's time to double down on your inner work. Your inner reality creates your external reality. You can't change anything from the outside in. We created this community for this very reason. You have all the information, tools and support you need to transform your inner reality and create a new experience for you and your loved ones. The question is... Are you going to step up and be the man you were born to be OR waste another year playing it safe? We are here to support you at every step of the way. If you reach a point you can't overcome yourself or have questions then reach out. Ask in the group, send us a message or come to a call. We have big plans for this year and I hope to meet you all in person in 2026. Andrew