I’ve noticed over the course of this work that when I recognize a trigger, do breathwork to release the emotion (which I typically do at night before sleep), that I still get triggered by the same event for at least the following 24 hrs. Day 2 is less, and by mid day 3, the trigger is largely gone and my adult self is present in the event. My latest experience was this past Sunday to Wednesday. What timing have others experienced (if you have)? I ask for the community as I recall thinking ‘well shit that session didn’t work’… then realizing later I’m the week that it did. Hoping this gives some hope to anyone feeling not changed immediately after a session.

As recent major life events have been happening in my world recently, new home, surprise big bills, second baby on the way, I had a bit of a shift internally. It was subtle enough over a few days or maybe a week... my inner dialogue became destructive. It was effecting meditations, and being projected onto others. Genuine classic "this isn't working, am I doing this right? I'm not good at this. What's the point tonight?" It goes on, and on, and on... The way I show up for my actual son was turning into how I was showing up for my inner child during meditation. Getting impatient, I could be more kind, probably not comforting or mindful at times. And I have experienced this before, I'll always be transparent and open with you men here because it's the truth! Showing up for yourself, your inner dialogue plays a very important roll. So what shows up for me tonight? Anger and scared. I spent a long time traveling the US to follow a career path that I thought I wanted, ended up with my dream job in San Francisco, to be washed out by a few men that destroyed all self confidence that I had and bullied me on a personal level. I fought through that for as long as I could until I simply couldn't handle it anymore, so tonight during meditation I came face to face with those men, I DID NOT WANT TO BE IN THAT MOMENT the feelings were so uncomfortable. So I stayed for as long as I could until the emotions felt they had calmed down 5-7 minutes? And made my intentions known to younger me which ended with "I'll be back tomorrow". * Join the calls gents *

Good morning Brothers How are you feeling this Monday morning? How do you feeling about this year? Are you feeling authentic and on the right path or have you set a load of goals that you won't achieve, again?? 😊 I have a pile of journals containing goals and positive affirmations from 15 years ago that were the same every year but nothing changed until I changed MYSELF. If you want to create any change this year then it's time to double down on your inner work. Your inner reality creates your external reality. You can't change anything from the outside in. We created this community for this very reason. You have all the information, tools and support you need to transform your inner reality and create a new experience for you and your loved ones. The question is... Are you going to step up and be the man you were born to be OR waste another year playing it safe? We are here to support you at every step of the way. If you reach a point you can't overcome yourself or have questions then reach out. Ask in the group, send us a message or come to a call. We have big plans for this year and I hope to meet you all in person in 2026. Andrew

Irritable – I am generally only irritable when I am tired which is a sign I am not looking after myself. I am much quicker to spot these feelings brewing and quickly speak up saying "No, I won't do that I need self-care right now." I take baths, something I thought I never had time for, take the dogs for a walk or jsut sit and listen to music. I am also a lot better at accepting what is, and that, everyone is doing their best in the very moment. Judgement drops about them "doing things TO me" and acceptance enters. This leads to a much more peaceful existence.

Weirdly, I have this to add to anger. It just came out of me as I began to write. I'll move on to the next one afterwards. Anger - Oooooh this is a big one. Oh, where does it come from?! So explosive and so destructive. Instant changer of your child's expression and demeanor, the realisation that Daddy can be a very scary man. Having always been one so sensitive to the energies around me I would always test the room beforehand, allowing me to censor my truth, not to rock the boat. It's not about putting people before you that is the problem, it's doing so when the resonance is out of tune with your personal truth. For me I can go on for weeks, months and possibily years without speaking up and then all it takes is one little thing and all that unsaid Scheisser comes raging out of me. Mild-Mannered-Millard has turned into a monster. Lashing out at all that have wronged him or at least those who he preceived to have done so. Once it is out, there is a tiny window of relief, a feeling of some sort of victory for finally getting it off your chest before the guilt and shame hits hard, the feeling that you're not a man. A man would have more control over his emotions, he wouldn't make his partner or offspring fear him. "I'm sorry, I didn't mean it." But you did do it, the message was valid but the package in which it came was unconcious, drowning out the point it was trying to make.