Our community works better when we know who we’re walking with. If you’re new or you’ve been here a while but quiet post a quick intro below. Who you are, where you’re at, and what brought you here. Most men don't reach out for help, this is a small but significant step in announcing you are ready for The Work.

I remember meeting a musician friend of mine about 20 years ago. We met for lunch in a park in London and were talking about life/career etc. At the time I had a successful financial services business in London, I had nice suits and shiny shoes! I remember him saying how well I was doing and how jealous he was of my situation but all I could think of at the time was how lucky he was to be on the 'right' path, following his passion and expressing himself creatively. At the time I said to him 'I would rather be on the bottom rung of the right ladder, rather than the top rung of the wrong one'. I climbed many ladders until finding the right one aged 40. I knew the others were wrong because I felt it, I always had an inner voice telling me that there was something else out there for me. I just couldn't hear what it was because of all the other noise and doubt I was carrying around. How do you feel about your path? Are you 'on-purpose' or are you climbing the wrong ladder?

In June I decided I was going to close my business down and look for a new corporate job. This was a decision that I didn't take lightly but achieved when I asked myself what's next. It became longer and more treacherous than I had imagined. It called into question so many things and really broke me down a few times. Thanks to the process and the support of this community, I was able to connect very deeply with authentic self and remove the barriers that were keeping me from finding the right opportunity. I'm excited to announce on my 44th birthday today that I accepted a job offer. I can directly attribute this to the work that and support of this group as I turned up in my most recent interviews with focus and without fear. You are important. This work is important. Use these tools. Onward gentlemen.

Thanks to Nick and Sam for coming to the call yesterday, there is loads of value there for people going through the process. We talk about how to process anger and how our unconscious stories around different emotions effect our ability to release them. We also talk a bit about parenting and how reduce the daily battle with your children. The recording is available in the FAQ section of the classroom.

The world is not safe. Isn't this how we are we kept in-line? Control by fear? I like to think back to our natural way of living. I believe we were designed to live in groups/tribes of around 100 people. A balanced mix of old, young and very young. In those groups we could easily meet eachothers' needs and have plenty of time for leisure and rest. They say that we used to have children at 20 because our bodies are strongest then and that the grandparents (40 years old or so) would raise the children as they are wise while still being physically strong enough to keep up with and protect the children as they grow. In these the tribes daily threats would include possible animal attacks, the weather and possibly another tribe invading and trying to take over or steal resources. In these moments the tribe would band together eliminate the threat and soon peace would prevail. Most of our existence would be fairly peaceful, hunting and gathering, cooking, making art and socialsing. A state of fear would defintely not have been our default setting. News of far off events would never reach us and as long as we had food and eachother I believe we would generally live fairly peaceful lives. Fast forward to today where (if you allow it) news bombards the majority of people for hours a day of “big scary” events happening all over the world. News is manipluated and carefully selected to induce fear in the population. What percentage of stories are positive? This lower vibration created by fearmongering allows those who we allow to have power over us and dictate how we live our lives. Look at events such as 9/11 or COVID. Events that directly affected a small number (percentage wise) of the population but through the media and manipulation of events caused a wave a fear to run through the population. People quickly gave up their rights and freedoms for a precieved threat that when we look at the facts and figures was not much worse than the flu in the case of COVID. Children were told that they could kill their grandmas just by being closer than 2m when there was no scientific proof to back up these claims.