Happy to have found this space..🤩 My name is Rutger. I'm a physiotherapist and yoga teacher and so I do a lot of work with other people, more and more as a somatic healer.. but, seeing this group it made me realise, I could do some more for myself. I'm really hoping the community with guide/motivate me to go deep into some of the unhealed trauma that still lurks around at my core, balancing my nervous system and coming more into my authentic self. Looking forward to sharing this space with all of you and hopefully getting that real sense of community. 🤩🙏

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Have you ever noticed how easy it is to live your whole life from compulsion?Pushing through. Proving yourself. Over-committing because slowing down feels scary. That’s how I’ve lived for years. Always in this loop of “I’ve got to, I’ve got to, I’ve got to.” A lot of people-pleasing. A lot of scrambling. But lately something’s shifted. And even though it feels subtle, it’s actually huge. I’ve started to move from: - Compulsion → Choice - Proving → Trust - Push → Rhythm It’s showing up in my business, in my parenting, in my daily rhythm. For example, I used to feel like I had to sell something every day. If I wasn’t bringing in money right this second, I felt like I was failing. Now I’m choosing to build towards a bigger launch, trusting myself instead of scrabbling for quick fixes. And you know what? I feel lighter. More inspired. This isn’t just about business though. It’s everywhere. - Doing the school run? That’s not “have to”, it’s a choice. I choose it because I love my son. - Going to work? You don’t “have to”, you’re choosing it, even if it feels heavy, because of what it provides. That little reframe changes so much. And here’s where nervous system regulation comes in. When I’m in fight-or-flight, I get stuck in proving and pushing. Everything feels urgent and compulsory. But when I slow down, regulate, and come back to my rhythm, I remember I get to choose. The question I’m asking myself about everything I do is this: 👉 “Is what I’m doing aligned with who I say I’m becoming?” If yes, I act. If no, I pause and recalibrate. And I’m starting to celebrate those pause moments as wins. Every time I choose rhythm over push, trust over proving, that’s success. Where in your life are you acting from compulsion and where are you acting from choice? Drop your reflections below, I’d love to hear.

Hey everybody, I just wanted to say thanks to some of you who already took the time to personally welcome me into the group. Beautiful people here.😍 I started breathwork years ago, with Wim Hof. But sort of lost the feeling for it again. Doing the 3 and 5 minute sessions here, brought back a lot of the sensations from them, and really brought a sense of peace, at the end of my working day. Hope to become a positive addition to the group here. Thank you all. 🤩🙏

Either I was calm or I was anxious, panicked, and running on adrenaline. But that never explained the other times. The times I felt completely shut down, numb, disconnected, staring at a half-finished task and unable to move. I used to call myself lazy. I’d spiral in shame because no amount of “just relax” or “get motivated” seemed to work. But here’s what I’ve learned: 👉 That isn’t laziness. 👉 That isn’t failure. 👉 That is your nervous system protecting you. 🌿 Enter Polyvagal Theory Developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, Polyvagal Theory gives us a complete map of the nervous system, not just two states, but six different states we can move through. Think of it like a ladder. At any given moment, you’re on one of the rungs, and your body is climbing up and down based on whether it feels safe or threatened. Here’s a simple breakdown: 1️⃣ Collapse (Dorsal Vagal) – numb, shut down, “I can’t even.” 2️⃣ Freeze – tense but stuck, like a deer in headlights. 3️⃣ Fight/Flight (Sympathetic) – anxious, angry, panicked, mobilized to run or fight. 4️⃣ Rest & Digest (Ventral Vagal) – safe stillness, calm, peaceful. 5️⃣ Playful Energy (Safe Sympathetic + Ventral) – lively, joyful, creative. 6️⃣ Social Connection (Ventral) – grounded, open, connected with others. The key? You can’t just leap from collapse straight to connection. You climb back up one rung at a time. ✨ So how do you climb? Here are 5 practices that help me (and might help you too): 1. The Vagal Sigh – Long exhale breaths that send a direct “I’m safe” signal. 2. Humming or toning – Gentle vibration in the throat calms the vagus nerve. 3. 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding – Noticing 5 things you see, 4 you feel, 3 you hear, 2 you smell, 1 you taste — pulling you back into the present. 4. The Self-Hug – Safe touch you give yourself, telling your body “I am held.” 5. Micro-Connection – A smile, a text to a friend, a warm memory. Tiny sparks of co-regulation. When I realized my nervous system wasn’t broken, I stopped fighting against it.