From Compulsion to Choice · Foundations of Ascension

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From Compulsion to Choice

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to live your whole life from compulsion?Pushing through. Proving yourself. Over-committing because slowing down feels scary.

That’s how I’ve lived for years. Always in this loop of “I’ve got to, I’ve got to, I’ve got to.” A lot of people-pleasing. A lot of scrambling.

But lately something’s shifted. And even though it feels subtle, it’s actually huge.

I’ve started to move from:

Compulsion → Choice
Proving → Trust
Push → Rhythm

It’s showing up in my business, in my parenting, in my daily rhythm.

For example, I used to feel like I had to sell something every day. If I wasn’t bringing in money right this second, I felt like I was failing. Now I’m choosing to build towards a bigger launch, trusting myself instead of scrabbling for quick fixes. And you know what? I feel lighter. More inspired.

This isn’t just about business though. It’s everywhere.

Doing the school run? That’s not “have to”, it’s a choice. I choose it because I love my son.
Going to work? You don’t “have to”, you’re choosing it, even if it feels heavy, because of what it provides.

That little reframe changes so much.

And here’s where nervous system regulation comes in.

When I’m in fight-or-flight, I get stuck in proving and pushing. Everything feels urgent and compulsory. But when I slow down, regulate, and come back to my rhythm, I remember I get to choose.

The question I’m asking myself about everything I do is this:

👉 “Is what I’m doing aligned with who I say I’m becoming?”

If yes, I act.

If no, I pause and recalibrate.

And I’m starting to celebrate those pause moments as wins. Every time I choose rhythm over push, trust over proving, that’s success.

Where in your life are you acting from compulsion and where are you acting from choice?

Drop your reflections below, I’d love to hear.

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