Hey loves, Boundaries comes up a lot, how to set them, how to hold them guilt free, and kinds of boundaries should we have and much more. Im preparing a free masterclass to go into the classroom then ill do some lives around this as boundaries are important for healthy living. Whilst I was doing some boundaries rabbit hole geek out stuff i came across these guys doing a 4 HOUR boundaries Podcast, with a FREE (i surrendered my email address lol) 100 page supporting doc. Ive listened to it all and read the doc (i dont share anything here i havent endorsed/used/engaged with, its not a dumping ground) and its actually full of good stuff so im sharing it for those of you that want to go deeper. https://youtu.be/p1cz55T7nek?si=LTdyyPr7LAYmy9n1

If boundaries feel scary, activating, or confusing — that is normal if you grew up in a household where you couldn't advocate for yourself or you felt your needs or voice wasn't important. For many of us, boundaries weren’t modeled and whenever we have tried to set one in the past it was trampled on. You may have learned to survive by :• staying agreeable • anticipating others’ needs • minimizing yourself • over-functioning • or disconnecting to stay safe These aren’t flaws.They are intelligent nervous system responses. Boundary struggles are not a lack of willpower.They’re often a regulation issue, not a communication issue. When your nervous system senses threat (conflict, disapproval, abandonment), it will default to what once kept you safe — even if your adult self knows better. That’s why: • guilt can feel overwhelming • your voice can shake • you might over-explain or shut down • you set a boundary and then undo it Boundaries are not about forcing yourself to be brave.They’re about creating enough internal safety to choose differently. In this space, we work with boundaries gently and somatically :• slowly • in small, titrated steps • with awareness of your body cues • without pushing or bypassing fear A boundary might look like • pausing before responding • giving yourself time instead of an instant yes • noticing where your body tightens • choosing rest without justification • leaving before you’re depleted That counts. You don’t need to be firm all at once. Its ok to flex and adapt as you evolve, heal, shift and change, and you don’t need perfect words. You also don’t need to explain your healing to anyone. We focus on: • grounding and regulation before conversation • safety before strategy • self-trust before scripts 💭 Gentle reflection:Where might your nervous system be asking for more safety, not stronger boundaries? Let this be a space where you learn to protect yourself without abandoning yourself 🤍 I am going to be creating a space in the Classroom around boundaries and its important and helps us establish guardrails and safety in our life.

Boundaries are self-defined limits that protect your core needs and values in these areas: ● Physical: your body and personal space ● Emotional: your capacity or emotional labor ● Intellectual: your beliefs and ideas, and what you’ll engage with ● Temporal: your time and energy ● Digital: your availability and data exposure ● Professional: your role, responsibilities, and ethical limits ● Spiritual: your meaning -making practices But boundaries only work when they’re named. Unnamed boundaries become a vague vibe, a quiet hope that someone will magically understand and honor your needs without you having to say anything . That’s not boundary-setting . That’s wishful thinking. ● Want a healthy relationship? You have to say, "I need an hour decompress after work before we reconnect". ● Want emotional autonomy? You have to say, "I care about how you feel, but I’m not responsible or your happiness". Do you have a list of boundaries for each section? I do :)