This is a hard topic… but an important one. There is often a strong link between trauma and suicidal thoughts. Not necessarily because someone wants to die - but because, at times, the nervous system feels overwhelmed by what it is carrying. And this is where an important distinction matters: Thoughts are not the same as intent. Having thoughts like “I can’t do this anymore” or “I want this pain to stop” does not automatically mean someone wants to end their life. Often, it means something else entirely. An analogy that might help: Imagine you are trapped in a dangerous building. There is smoke. It feels overwhelming. Your body is on high alert. What does your brain do? It starts scanning for exits. Every possible way out. Windows. Doors. Fire escapes. Even options you would not normally consider. Not because you truly want to jump out of a window… but because your system is desperately trying to find a way to survive. 💔 Trauma can feel like that building. When the emotional intensity gets too high, the mind can start searching for any possible exit from the pain. Sometimes those “exits” show up as suicidal thoughts. That does not always mean we truly want to die. Often, it means our system is overwhelmed and trying to find relief. You are not “bad” or “broken” for having these thoughts. Thoughts can pass - especially when you are supported and regulated. You do not have to face that intensity alone. Healing doesn’t happen in isolation - it happens in community. If you are struggling right now, please reach out to someone you trust or a crisis support service in your country. You deserve support, safety, and space to breathe. With love, Chris ❤️

If youve done your free nervous system call with me or seen me speak on somatic coaching you will know im passionate about vagus nerve toning, chakra clearing & alignment, and HUMMing. https://youtu.be/eBqFqUxOvSU?si=eXsMdilyr9Vy3gbW Lets get humming and breathing today for healing and health

Happy Self Care Sunday. The sun is out in London which is always exciting as i know i spend too much time inside with the work that I do so today ill be going for walks and reading in the garden. But first yoga, workout and meditation. Im all packed and ready to fly to Tunisa tomorrow for my birthday, im excited to get my feet in sand, swim and relax. Deep breaths, dropping into my body and listening to the ocean, to nature, feeling the warm sun on my skin will give me a sense of wellbeing i havent had for a while so im excited for that. What does your Self Care Sunday and plans ahead look like? Are you building in ways to fill your cup or just building a to do list to bosh through with no you time (if so please relook at that). Tx

When a child is dysregulated, what they need most isn’t distance — it’s connection. Traditional “time out” often focuses on isolation. The child is removed, left alone with big feelings they don’t yet have the tools to process. From the outside, it may look like compliance… but internally, it can create shame, disconnection, or reinforce the belief: “I’m too much” or “I’m bad.” A trauma-informed approach leans into “time in.” Time in doesn’t mean allowing harmful behaviour — it means staying present through it. It looks like sitting nearby, softening your tone, and helping your child name what’s happening inside them. It’s co-regulation before self-regulation. Instead of “go away until you’re calm,” it becomes, “I’m here with you while you find your way back.” Because children don’t learn emotional regulation in isolation — they learn it in relationship. When you choose connection during dysregulation: - You show them their emotions are safe to feel - You model how to move through overwhelm - You build trust instead of fear - You teach, rather than punish This doesn’t mean it’s easy. Staying regulated while your child is not can feel incredibly challenging — especially if it triggers your own nervous system. This is where your awareness becomes the work. Slowing your breath, grounding your body, and responding instead of reacting. Connection is the intervention. Over time, “time in” helps a child develop the internal capacity to pause, reflect, and choose differently. Not because they were forced to — but because they were supported enough to learn how. And that’s the goal. Not obedience. But emotional safety, resilience, and secure attachment. If you haven't checked out my parenting workshop there is a video as well as a PDF on your children's emotions, its in the parenting with a narcissist section but there are somatic trauma informed resources too. Tx

This was supposed to be a live call but it went in the calendar for 1 am not pm so here is a video covering the topic and directing you to the free workbook. Feel free to comment here and lets get consistent in building the life we want to live and not self abandoning. What old habits that no longer serve you have you left behind, and what new healthy habits have you incorporated into your daily routine. Do you habit stack? Do you plan things in your diary? How do you stay consistent? Any tips or inspiration to help others? Do you self abandon and put others needs first then feel resentful - how can you stop that and know you are worthy of your energy being directed towards yourself? Tx