Happy Self Care Sunday. The sun is out in London which is always exciting as i know i spend too much time inside with the work that I do so today ill be going for walks and reading in the garden. But first yoga, workout and meditation. Im all packed and ready to fly to Tunisa tomorrow for my birthday, im excited to get my feet in sand, swim and relax. Deep breaths, dropping into my body and listening to the ocean, to nature, feeling the warm sun on my skin will give me a sense of wellbeing i havent had for a while so im excited for that. What does your Self Care Sunday and plans ahead look like? Are you building in ways to fill your cup or just building a to do list to bosh through with no you time (if so please relook at that). Tx

Now include: This is a community space for healing. If you would like to work through something specifically please book a coaching call with me or a free discovery call. If you are feeling very disregulated, suicidal or in need of urgent support please see the helplines below. Get yourself the help and support you need and look after yourself. Your safety is important to me and this community. Samaritans https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=945644317&gbraid=0AAAAAD-VeVGcIzENhpOtQMPlpmB3N1Q4s&gclid=CjwKCAjw14zPBhAuEiwAP3-Eb9FzJ_C6idRkP8pKKGQZ38FHgCYQExXw91VLODlKIsivTXR28nKOzxoC2ocQAvD_BwE Solace https://www.solacewomensaid.org/ Met police advice https://www.met.police.uk/advice/advice-and-information/daa/domestic-abuse/support-organisations/

https://www.skool.com/dafree-community-8200/dafree-live-conversation-this-saturday?p=6f8cef99 Karine will be sharing her experience of a narcissistic family and her recovery journey.

Following on from yesterdays post heres an interesting episode on identity, and true self of awareness. https://youtu.be/wL9OJWoWKYU?si=IbVCVtAF-purzhRm

So many people in healing spaces are focused on becoming “better communicators.” Be less aggressive, more assertive, speak up more, move in silence etc etc But I want to offer a reframe because that can be misleading and misses the context in what, where and to whom we're communicating. If you’ve ever felt like you couldn’t get your words out, or you left conversations feeling confused, small, or dismissed… that’s not a communication failure. That’s a safety response. Your nervous system tracks safety far more than logic. And when something feels off—even subtly—you may find yourself over-explaining, shutting down, or trying to manage the other person’s reaction. In unhealthy dynamics, communication can become distorted. You might be clear, calm, and grounded… and still not be heard. That’s why this work isn’t just about what you say. Its about recognising where it’s safe to say it and how you can stay regulated as you navigate situations where communication may be welcome, or not actually worth your words at all. Have you experienced this? I know I have. Working with my nervous system, clearing and aligning my chakras (my throat was so blocked id physically choke up or be sick after the abuse when i tried to communicate), understanding my communication style, getting to grips with boundaries and knowing who I am & my intentions made a huge difference to how i'm perceived as a communicator and how comfortable and safe i feel to communicate. Tx