Hey guys Thanks for all your feedback on the previous post about how to improve the engagement in this group. I went live today to talk about these ideas and what changes will happen in this group. I'll wait for your responses before I make those changes happen, so please take a moment to watch the video below or read through the summary notes and let me know your thoughts. This is especially important for those of you wanting to access this group for free! Cheers Dan

Since Dan wants more engagement, I will reluctantly post something.. I am currently going through the different contents, be it in podcasts, blog posts or courses. I made some progress since joining, as I worried a lot about my reputation, but I enjoyed the blog post about being non-defensive which cleared my beliefs concerning someone badmouthing me would propagate to everyone in the room. At the same time I still have some shame about my current situation: not having a job, living with my parents, that could be used against me, so being non-defensive would be difficult I guess in these cases. So I guess the first step would be for me to stop rejecting myself because of that.

One of the main takeaways I had from Louis Theroux's documentary on the Manosphere was the new cultural norm of contempt for being a good person. Today I want to talk about why it is good to be good, and how relishing in being the bad guy is a sign of mental dysfunction and exceptionally low self-worth, and is therefore a faulty model of living if you want a high quality enjoyable life. As neuroscientist and commentator Sam Harris recently pointed out, the bad guys used to at least pretend they were good. They had to pretend in order to get away with being bad. But these manosphere influencers openly brag about being awful people, and on occasion even openly admit to scamming their loyal followers and customers. So I wanted to write to the few people who will read this and make a case for being a good person. Firstly, I must define what a “good person” is without devolving into pages of philosophical argument. So for the sake of this article, being a good person simply means "you intend to take actions that make life better for those around you as well as yourself." This is not to be confused with people-pleasing, which is a manipulation to give the appearance of being a good person. While the behaviours can often appear to be the same - e.g. self-sacrificing acts of kindness - the intention is different. People pleasers have the primary motive of seeking approval and validation. A genuine Good Person does things for the sake of being good, even if this means being misunderstood, unappreciated, or even hated. To further clarify what it means to be good, we can also define what it means to be bad. For the sake of this post, being “bad” means intentionally doing acts that you know are likely to harm others, for your own gain. Either the goal itself is to cause harm (sadism), or you’re simply willing to cause harm to achieve another goal even when a less harmful way is available, e.g. choosing to make money ripping people off instead of earning it honestly. Being “bad” is not the same as being assertive or doing necessary harm for the greater good. Being a good person sometimes means doing things that people don’t enjoy because in the longer term it would create a higher quality of life, e.g. hosting an intervention for a drug addict, giving a staff member critical feedback, or even using minimal violence at a small scale to prevent violence at a much larger scale.

I recently found myself out of work. The Agency I work for stopped contacting me, and even responding to my calls and messages. This has left me in some real financial stress at a time when I was just breaking free from debt. I started to think the universe was trying to break me. Daft, right? Like the whole fucking Universe gives a damn about me. But that was how I have been feeling. What I feel is worse is that I am procrastinating on finding a new job. I would be thinking about what to do, finding some pathways and saying " I'll do it later". Then I realised that I have spent my whole life ( I'm memory) doing this. I'll do it tomorrow, I'll do it when I get paid etc etc. Now, even though I have become aware of this, breaking free from this is stupidly hard. Even with advice and techniques to help, I find myself not doing anything and suddenly finding it's dark or past a deadline and I feel a sense of failure. It is INFURIATING!!

Hey Everyone, I'm currently learning how to build funnels using ClickFunnels, and am in need of some practice. Do any of you have a business / product or service to sell and want to increase your leads and sales? If so, I'd be very happy to help you out for free. Getting some results for you and maybe a few testimonials in exchange would mean a lot to me. Thanks for your consideration! 😊