This week I want to recognise Brotherhood veteran Slava who followed through with a very uncomfortable challenge recently: busking in public. We see buskers often yet we rarely ask ourselves if we'd have the courage to do that. As a musician, I can tell you it's scarier than playing on stage at a gig, because at a gig people are expecting you and maybe even be looking forward to you. On the street, it's just anyone and everyone. And, as Slava experienced, not everyone will appreciate you. I won't share private details, but he had to practice assertiveness as well! One of the favourite parts of my work is when a client does something that I'd be actually nervous to do. This is the case here for sure! Well done mate

Hey everyone, I'll be looking to start this next month. As we've discussed, it will be an elimination-style fun competition that everyone can compete in for MASSIVE prizes, including all-expenses paid 1:1 coaching with me. But, of course, you should be doing it to help yourself develop and grow. This month's challenge will be all about building your social circle! It will help if you have access to the Building Rapport course (but it's not necessary). That course will go on sale with a $100 discount this weekend for those who don't have it yet. The challenge will require that you post in this group multiple times per week to stay in the competition, so if you're keen to compete make sure you have some time set aside for social building next month. All the actions will be manageable and do-able for anyone, so it's just a matter of commitment to your goals. Comment "I'm in!" below if you're keen..

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Something I've noticed in many of my clients is a fear of what they might call divine justice. This manifests as a fear of success. They are worried that if they do well, it will "all be taken away". It's like succeeding somehow calls attention to them and provokes god or the universe into vengeance. Many of them were raised to believe that doing better than others is something you should feel guilty for, whether it's having physical advantages, wealth, or academic ability. Their solution is to suffer. While they succeed, they use pressure and stress and the "I'm not good enough" story to ensure they don't enjoy their successes. This is their tactic to avoiding provoking the punishment of the universe, like they're saying, "See? I don't need punishment because I'm already in pain. Please don't take it all away!" Anyone else relate to this?