The topic of decision making has come up a lot during client sessions lately. Most guys procrastinate and get indecisive because deep down they don't trust themselves. They're scared of making the 'wrong' decision - of making a 'mistake'. But I've learned something powerful over the years; there are no bad decisions. There are only bad reactions to decisions. In this case, we decided not to double-check our flight times, and as a result turned up to the airport about 24 hours too late to make an expensive flight from NZ to Czech. To add injury to insult, the war in Iran has ruined most flight routes back home, and the ones remaining are highly sought after. We tried booking new flights, but they got sold out by the time we got to the check out page. It was looking nearly impossible to get home within the next few weeks, and we had important medical appointments etc coming up. What to do? Well, it turns out we were looking at it the wrong way. We looked at it as a mistake that needed fixing. This limited our vision to only looking for flights all the way back to Czech, i.e. to redo what we originally were supposed to do. But what if we changed it? What if we treated this as an opportunity to go travelling? Turns out, there's only strong competition for flights going direct from NZ all the way to Europe. Flights just to midway points, like Singapore and Hawaii, were going ahead as normal with the usual availability. So it turned out to be much easier and cheaper to separate the trip into 2 stages; one to a midway point and then a separate ticket from there back home. Long story short, we realised we could spend a week in Hawaii and then cruise onwards to Czech without having to fly through a warzone or compete for tickets. Sure, it cost money, but was actually pretty cheap because we're booking it all last-minute, so both flights and accomodation were lower than usual. Probably the better way to travel anyway. And then, to further overcome the regret of 'missing our flight' and 'wasting money', we decided that one day in the future we would have done a Hawaii trip anyway, so technically-speaking we're just bringing it forward. In this sense, we haven't actually lost any money! We're just travelling one-way from NZ rather than a more expensive return trip from Czech.

Action is the ONLY currency to lasting change. Let me keep it simple with this post with no back story so it might sound strange. I'm giving myself 3 days to write an opening segment for my standup comedy routine, practice it and then record it. This Wednesday by March 18th I need to have it recorded. I gotta make some moves and take action. I'm determined. Thanks for everyone's support so far on everything and thanks in advance on this one. Maybe on a later post I'll provide some backstory. For now, the action is more important. I'll keep you all posted.

Alright guys, based on your votes earlier, you can now nominate other people in Brojo to receive free courses, books and more. This is your chance to serve others with just a few taps on the keyboard. Every so often, I'll do a post like this asking you to nominate someone, and that person will get a free gift. How to do it: comment below this post and tag someone in the comment (use the @ feature), with why you want to nominate them, e.g. "I nominate @Daniel Munro because his recent post about Stoicism helped me make a breakthrough" I'll review nominations and contact the nominees privately to offer them a free course or book or whatever I have going on at the moment. Go for it!

This is an interesting psychological phenomenon I stumbled upon years ago, when studying psychology for the first time. It is essentially the idea that, because we’ve already invested in something, we have to keep investing in it / go through with it. My psychology prof used the example of a bad movie at a movie theatre. It might be terrible, and obviously terrible from the start, but most people tend to think along the lines of, “Well, I’ve paid twenty bux for this, so I gotta stick it out until the end.” Newsflash: YOU ACTUALLY DON’T HAVE TO!! Instead, think of it as money lost regardless of what you do next, and don’t lose time on it as well. It’s OKAY to walk out of the theater and put the remaining 90 minutes you would otherwise waste there into something more worthwhile! The sunk-cost fallacy can affect us in many areas of life, including relationships, careers, hobbies and more! That first date going terribly? Find a way to end it early. Hate working in the career your degree prepared you for? It’s likely not too late to switch career paths! Decided you don’t want to read all those mystery novels you bought? Sell ‘em! I mean, your time is finite, and arguably your most precious resource, so why waste it on unpleasant and/or useless tasks to justify some investment of time/money/effort you made in it prior? You gotta be objective and let it go! I know it’s hard, but it’s better than doing something that leads nowhere good… The investment is made. The time / money has been spent, and you cannot get it back. However, you can learn from it, pivot, and do something better going forward. Learn more about the sunk-cost fallacy here: The Sunk Cost Fallacy: How It Affects Your Decisions One interesting quote from the above article: “Studies have shown that the larger the loss, the higher the sunk-cost bias is. In other words, the more you have already ‘invested,’ the less likely you are to shift gears and walk away.”

I’m considering running a small coaching cohort in April. This would be a 1-month intensive behaviour-focused group, based on the core work I do with clients around confidence and integrity building through action. It wouldn’t be a course or passive content thing. More like a structured month of doing the work together with a small group of men. A few details if I run it: • Small group (limited spaces) - probably maxium 5 people • Live coaching sessions twice per week focused on each person taking a small but significant action within 24 hours • Direct feedback from me • Lifetime access to the Brojo courses afterwards Because of the nature of the work, I’ll probably keep it invitation-only rather than opening it publicly. Right now I’m just gauging interest. If this is something you’d seriously consider joining in April, comment below or message me and I’ll keep you in the loop when details are finalized. Dan