This week I want to recognise Brotherhood veteran Slava who followed through with a very uncomfortable challenge recently: busking in public. We see buskers often yet we rarely ask ourselves if we'd have the courage to do that. As a musician, I can tell you it's scarier than playing on stage at a gig, because at a gig people are expecting you and maybe even be looking forward to you. On the street, it's just anyone and everyone. And, as Slava experienced, not everyone will appreciate you. I won't share private details, but he had to practice assertiveness as well! One of the favourite parts of my work is when a client does something that I'd be actually nervous to do. This is the case here for sure! Well done mate

Hey everyone, I'll be looking to start this next month. As we've discussed, it will be an elimination-style fun competition that everyone can compete in for MASSIVE prizes, including all-expenses paid 1:1 coaching with me. But, of course, you should be doing it to help yourself develop and grow. This month's challenge will be all about building your social circle! It will help if you have access to the Building Rapport course (but it's not necessary). That course will go on sale with a $100 discount this weekend for those who don't have it yet. The challenge will require that you post in this group multiple times per week to stay in the competition, so if you're keen to compete make sure you have some time set aside for social building next month. All the actions will be manageable and do-able for anyone, so it's just a matter of commitment to your goals. Comment "I'm in!" below if you're keen..

I haven't written anything much of late, and I have this idea that one day I'll be more healed from nice guybsyndrom than I am, and I'll have all positive words to say. Meanwhile, as I am in the process of healing, and growing in courage, honesty, and integrity, I have to report on an old pattern. This is one tgat has been huge in my life in the past, and seems is still about. I was challenged by a man I respect that I live too mych and reference to much to /in my past. This was when I was sharing with him about why I find celebrating myself hard, and mybexample was from like 4 years old. And after this exchange I remembered how often I have had similar feedback, and how much I think the nice guy people pleaser thing is so linked to trying to get others to heal my past for me. One time I had a slap in the face with this was an ex partner, of who's 2 mail reason's for leaving me, 1 was i was too stucknin the past, too much thinkingbibwas special and my pain / my padt was worse than others. It's taken me a ling time to see the selfishness in padt focus. It's taken me a long time to see the deceit in beingba people pleaser. Another past, present, future, thing for me is that learning thing. Remembering to remeber I am prone to being stuck in the padt, and being now instead, or even thinkingbabout where I'd like to be next (future thinking is a huge challenge for me historicaly, and even now is hard for me to calm myself and focus enough to do). I guess I'm angry, and disappointed in myself, that I still have this . I am aware though, tgat that feeds it, and tge best thing I can probably do is to use that anger to help myself act in the now, and plan a better future. I share this here to let it out, to let out the behavior and bekeifs I don't want to do any more, and to be open to any ideas other men have on these issues. Thanks.

Most people believe they need to feel motivated before taking action. But that belief is one of the biggest traps holding you back from building confidence, breaking free from procrastination, and living with integrity. Think about it—every day you do dozens of things you don’t feel like doing: brushing your teeth, going to work, exercising, handling responsibilities. You already know how to act without motivation. Yet when it comes to the harder stuff—setting boundaries, chasing goals, facing fears—we tell ourselves we need the “right mood” first. That lie is keeping you stuck. In this video, I’ll break down why motivation is unreliable, why waiting for the right feeling is a form of self-sabotage, and how you can create a life of zero procrastination by learning to act without needing motivation. The secret? Action creates motivation, not the other way around. Once you move, momentum follows. If you’re a Nice Guy or people-pleaser trying to build confidence, this might be the mindset shift you need to finally break through. 👉 Question for you: What’s one thing you’ve been putting off because you “don’t feel like it”? Drop your answer in the comments—I’ll be replying to as many as I can. Watch the video below Brotherhood members: make sure you check out the latest updates to the courses

My Son turned 16 yesterday. He lives only down the road from me. He doesn't reply to my simple messages. I stopped communicating with the mother a year ago because she doesn't reply either unless she wants to have a go at me. That's what it feels like. He was busy yesterday so today I cooked and baked and bought a cake, thinking he'll come up once he's finished what he's doing. Even though messages to get clarity on that were met once again with nothing. I thought to myself, all I can do is do my best for the things I can control and not get angry because of my pain from how I feel they're treating me, and get sad and want to throw the towel in and do nothing. That wouldn't be fair on him because he's just a teenager, a child. So I have to be the adult and still be there for my Son and not try to control what I assume is going on outside of me. I have a feeling this all stems from the mother's pain if any, she has with me. And also my lack of boundaries and lack of asking for respect and showing that I at least mean something to myself. I messaged the mother tonight and she said no he's not coming. I don't want to reply to her and get more sad. This has been going on for ages but getting gradually worse and worse. No cooperation at all. I feel like going away and pretending they don't exist anymore.