Hey guys For the next 5 or so VIP workshops, I'm going to run a series for Social Circle Mastery - a very practical set of workshops designed to revolutionize your dating and friendships. (Hint: the strategy is the exact same for both sexual and platonic... except for the shagging). Below are the modules - we'll probably cover 2-3 in each session. Each will be followed up with live Q+A. Introduction - What the course is about Principles and Mindset - Moving from old school thinking to a completely different non-needy fram Get Yourself Together - Sorting out your shit so you don't repulse good fits Creating opportunities - Building a social life that gives you great opportunities (no apps or DMs) Initiating - How to approach and connect with new people 3X Conversations - Keeping an authentic conversation flowing without trying hard Express Interest and Attraction - How to show someone your feelings towards them Invite (Offer, Don’t Ask) - Bringing people deeper into your life (replaces traditional "dating") Go Deeper - Building intense connections that they've never experienced before Escalate Physically - Increasing intimacy with touch Integrate Into Your Life - Bringing your lives together into a relationship Set Relationship Boundaries - Protecting the relationship with respect Once recorded, this will then become a permanent paid course here on Brojo (and in Udemy) - minus the Q+A. Let's see how it goes! Comment below with any questions you want to make sure the series answers. PS. If you're not already a VIP member, join here to attend live and get your questions answered.

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Nice guys destroy relationships in ways they think are healthy. They think that love should be enough, being easygoing makes them attractive, and staying calm or rational during conflict makes them mature. But what actually happens is: - attraction dies, - resentment builds, - communication becomes fake, - and eventually their partner emotionally checks out. I know this because I used to do it all the time. Girls kept losing interest in me after 3 weeks of dating, and I couldn’t figure out why. I was so easygoing, funny, comfortable to be around. That’s good, right? They were really into me at first, then a pattern would emerge: they’d reject sex, then I’d get ghosted or text dumped like I meant nothing. I felt like I was doing everything right, when I was actually doing everything wrong. My reliance on my understanding of love just lead to covert contracts and hidden resentments, my agreeableness made me bland, one dimensional and boring. When I did stand up for myself I was insecure, overly rational, and trying too hard, which just gave off little boy vibes rather than mature man energy. No wonder it wasn’t working! In this podcast – a live streamed workshop – we’ll discuss the three critical mistakes nice guys make in relationships, which they mistakenly believe are healthy. These include: - thinking love is enough to avoid setting boundaries, - being overly easygoing to avoid conflict, and - defensiveness during arguments. We’ll explore how these behaviours lead to dead bedroom relationships, resentment, and a lack of genuine connection. We will look at the importance of setting boundaries, expressing preferences, and being non-defensive to foster healthier relationships. We’ll also highlight the need for emotional range and authenticity to maintain attraction and deep connection… If you prefer written content, click here to keep reading the full written version on Dan’s blog.

I'm going to help someone be fine on the inside too. Here's what that looks like for him: He pitches an idea at work. Boss says "Thanks, but we're going a different direction." He shrugs. Walks out thinking about lunch. No replaying what he should have said. His mate calls. "Hey, can you help me move on Saturday?" "Sorry man, can't this weekend" and puts his feet up to watch the game like he'd planned. Doesn't check his phone once to see if his mate's pissed. Wife asks how the casserole is. "It's a little salty," he says. She scrunches her face for a second. They start chatting about weekend plans. No walking on eggshells. At night, he sleeps like a baby. Here's how it works… Our brains get stuck in loops trying to keep us safe… by managing OTHER people's emotions. Planning what to say. Rehearsing how they'll react. Replaying what already happened. But managing everyone like that? Impossible job. So naturally we get stuck (and exhausted). Turns out, the antidote to the stuckness is to be Shameless… Then it goes away fast. Because your brain quickly figures out there was nothing to manage. The looping that used to last days shrinks to hours. Then minutes. Then it just stops. Most of my clients feel that shift in their first week. I've worked with a lot of guys who looked fine on the outside. 30 of them left Google reviews. All 30 gave five stars. I told them to be honest. Of course, "being your shameless self" probably sounds terrifying. It was for me.

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