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Agenda for non-defensiveness part 2 workshop: have your say
Hey VIPs, here's the agenda for our next workshop (this evening), let me know if there's anything you want to add
Mental barriers - how to overcome...
- Responses don’t come to you quickly / need time to process
- Fall into the defensiveness trap without realising
- Start cool, but gradually escalate
- Background stress makes you sensitive
- Think "If I don’t address this now, bigger problems later" (reputation, precedence, expectations)
- Rumination (your response bothers you long afterwards)
- Attached to accuracy / need to correct their “truth” / teach them a lesson
- Caring too much what they think
Practical tips
- Non defensive (unreactive) vs defensive (try to convince them)
- Assertive (enforce boundaries) vs aggressive (controlling)
- The pause
- Stare down
- Cold shoulder,
- Change topic
- “Oh you!”
- Agree that THEY believe it
- Yup
- Double down
- Ask them to repeat it
- Curious about motives
- Confusion about their morality
- Advanced tricks
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Agenda for non-defensiveness part 2 workshop: have your say
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