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Over the last few months, I have been pushing myself to sing at a local open mic night. I have been told I have a good voice and encouraged to continue. One person has been pushing me to go further and enter Britain's got Talent. I feel on the surface that I can do that, but I cannot seem to make myself record the video I need to do so. I make excuses and justify my reticence with time, work and caring for my Brother, but I know in my heart these are false. I am finding so hard to go for this opportunity to showcase my talent, and I think it is down to that thought that I don't deserve to succeed. I want to feel the confidence of having pushed my edge. But it is TERRIFYING!!

Hey everyone It's been a hell of a weekend. Brojo.org was temporarily down, now resolved , which also means my [email protected] email address can receive emails again. I'm hoping to have this resolved soon.(EDIT) I've also been banned permanently from Facebook. Not really sure why but I am sure there's nothing I can do about it. I can't even set up a new profile (face recognition prevents it). So my Groups and Pages on there are probably going to have to die slowly because I didn't think to set up a back-up admin, and Messenger obviously doesn't work for me anymore. If you need to contact me, please use WhatsApp +420605446442 I'll keep you all posted on developments thanks! Dan

There’s a series of books I highly recommend reading called The Brilliance Trilogy written by Marcus Sakey. Similar to X-Men, but more realistic, the story is set around an idea that 1% of the population are “brilliant” due to some unknown change in human DNA. These “gifted” people are extremely adept at pattern recognition, and this plays out in different ways and to different degrees of intensity. Some are able to do complicated mathematics in their head. Some have eidetic memories (they remember and recall everything). Some are strategic masterminds who can beat chess grandmasters, while others have physical skills that make them able to dodge opponents on the sports field as if they can read minds. What I love about these books is that these abilities are not superhuman exactly, more like representations of what extremely talented, gifted and genius humans are capable of. Sure, some of the characters in the books are above and beyond anything a human has ever achieved, but unlike most superhero stories, these abilities are just normal human talents amplified to the extreme, like if you were able to dial up any human trait to it’s maximum possible setting. Why am I talking about this? Because after studying psychology for the better part of 20 years, and in particular applied psychology - i.e. what actually works in real life rather than just in textbooks - I’ve been hit time and time again with a painful truth: humans perform nowhere near their potential. The Brilliance books are a bittersweet fiction for me, because they are often what I’ve imagined humans would be like if we were not so self-limited. I emphasize SELF-limited because while nearly everyone I’ve worked with believes it’s the external world holding them back and causing them problems, the truth is the old cliche is true: each person is their own worst enemy. And it’s not even close - nearly no-one experiences more hardship from the outside world than they do from their own mind. Great sports coaches know this. When Serena Williams loses an important tennis match, if you watch closely you’ll realise she’s the one losing, it’s not the other player winning. What I mean is that she throws the game away. It’s subtle, barely noticeable. But you’ll see extra faulted serves, a little bit less enthusiasm than usual to get to the ball, and a few rookie errors. All the other player needs to do is just hit the ball back over the net, and she’ll ruin the game for herself.