After much reflection and consideration, I’ve decided it’s time to change how I create content. THE CHANGE, IN A NUTSHELL: Starting from next month, I’m going to be exclusively publishing full podcasts. My written posts and email newsletters will be full transcripts of the podcasts (edited to be readable), so that all formats of my educational publications will be long-form and deep. No more shorter videos (<20min) or posts. I won’t be cutting podcasts into smaller pieces or creating short summaries anymore. The podcasts will still be published as videos on YouTube, but full length. In other words, I’m shifting to a quality over quantity model. WHY THIS IS HAPPENING I’ve completed a thorough review of my best coaching clients and the other people I’ve observed who have made the biggest improvements with building their confidence, creating amazing social lives, and generally living with integrity. I found there’s something they all have in common that I didn’t know: They prefer long-form content. I should have guessed, as it makes complete sense. When they want to change, they go deep. They’ve listened to many hours of my podcast, or read my books in full, or completed entire courses. They engage actively in my 30 Day Challenges. They show up for the Brotherhood workshops, taking notes and attempting the homework tasks diligently. And I’m not the only person they’re following! They invest SERIOUS time and effort into their confidence building and self-development education. I’ve also discretely tracked the other members of my audience, specifically: the ones who “lurk” for a long time, often appearing enthusiastic but not seeming to make significant progress. They have something in common too: they prefer lighter content; medium-length videos, short posts, clips, dabbling briefly in courses, etc. Obviously there are a few exceptions, but these trends generally hold true. I’ve had a rude awakening: I’m actually enabling certain people to consume content obsessively without making serious changes!

G’new years guys. Morten from Norway here. Thanks for all postings. For me, it gives the important feeling of not being alone. I’ve spent the last month redecorating my wife’s rental flat, spent probably 2 k on it. And all this time she’s been complaining and never said a word of “thanks”🤷🏼. This is her project and my spare time/ money. Thia will never benefit me. This constant feeling of never being good enough and this constant pursuit of her happiness or approval is not new on fortunately. Stuck in the same pattern for almost 20 years. The worst coward or nice guy you’ll ever meet. That’s me.

Something I've been struggling with for some now, as silly as it might seem to some, is, what does it mean to be a man? What is masculinity really? Is it just having the physical bits? I would say not. Regardless of what you believe in regards to what people "identify as" or what they've done to modify their bodies, its irrelevant. If you are a man (or a woman) and something happens to your junk, hypothetically, its blown clean off.. you are still a man, right? Now, I know thats not how it works. If your junk aint functioning right, you are gonna feel like less of a man (and again, same goes for a woman) regardless. But, you aren't, right? So what does it mean to be a man? Most people would think of things like, being aggressive, taking the lead and being a leader, being strong (physically and mentally), wanting to provide, etc. But does that necessarily mean women are the opposite? I would say not. So can you really say these things are masculine? Now, I have always been male. I have never identified or felt differently. I do not experience any gender dysphoria, or for that matter, body dysmorphia. Therefor I cannot say I understand what its like to feel that. But I cannot define what it means to be male other than, of course, the body parts. Now, certain other websites with men who purport to support other men being men, etc, seem to have often more conventional definitions of masculinity which I find a bit unpleasant. They are all about, man be strong, man take care of woman, man make money take care of all things. etc. (caveman speak intentional). At the same time I do believe there are in fact physical and mental differences, but theres a lot of fluidity there and nobody fits all the stereotypes perfectly. This is all complicated for me. I've never had any issues with people and their sexuality or identification I believe we should all love each other and be ourselves. I have an assigned at birth daughter who is now almost 21 and is in the process of gender reassignment. I love them to death (teen years were hard though..) I still find it hard to refer to them as he. I take their word for how they say they feel they are male. But this muddies my idea of what it means to be masculine.

Im always releived when the festive period is over.The concept of having to be joyful for such a long period of time seems daunting. Saying that this year was better refusing things and celebrations that didn't align with my values.. The calmest and most productive F period for a long time.

Happy new years to all of you! To help you plan and prepare for 2026 to ensure it's better than any year you had before, I'm giving away free copies of my book The Legendary Life, which takes you through the entire step by step process for planning your life, including how to motivate yourself, write goals, and remove barriers. The first 10 people to comment "Legendary" get a copy! Cheers Dan