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6d •
30 day challenge coming up...
Hey everyone, I'll be looking to start this next month. As we've discussed, it will be an elimination-style fun competition that everyone can compete in for MASSIVE prizes, including all-expenses paid 1:1 coaching with me. But, of course, you should be doing it to help yourself develop and grow. This month's challenge will be all about building your social circle! It will help if you have access to the Building Rapport course (but it's not necessary). That course will go on sale with a $100 discount this weekend for those who don't have it yet. The challenge will require that you post in this group multiple times per week to stay in the competition, so if you're keen to compete make sure you have some time set aside for social building next month. All the actions will be manageable and do-able for anyone, so it's just a matter of commitment to your goals. Comment "I'm in!" below if you're keen..
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I'm in
Aug 3 •
No boundaries. No respect.
My Son turned 16 yesterday. He lives only down the road from me. He doesn't reply to my simple messages. I stopped communicating with the mother a year ago because she doesn't reply either unless she wants to have a go at me. That's what it feels like. He was busy yesterday so today I cooked and baked and bought a cake, thinking he'll come up once he's finished what he's doing. Even though messages to get clarity on that were met once again with nothing. I thought to myself, all I can do is do my best for the things I can control and not get angry because of my pain from how I feel they're treating me, and get sad and want to throw the towel in and do nothing. That wouldn't be fair on him because he's just a teenager, a child. So I have to be the adult and still be there for my Son and not try to control what I assume is going on outside of me. I have a feeling this all stems from the mother's pain if any, she has with me. And also my lack of boundaries and lack of asking for respect and showing that I at least mean something to myself. I messaged the mother tonight and she said no he's not coming. I don't want to reply to her and get more sad. This has been going on for ages but getting gradually worse and worse. No cooperation at all. I feel like going away and pretending they don't exist anymore.
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@Rutger Diergaarde cheers mate. Sometimes it's almost like I just have to think that I don't have children, to have that frame of mind, in order to help me get through each day. And just try to bring my attention to building myself up some how. And look for tools to practice to acknowledge what I am really supposed to be setting out to do here. Not getting held back by crippling troubles which will just completely take me out into depression if I let it. And to focus instead on the awareness of myself and where I'm going and how I'm getting there.
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@Charlotte Nymoen thank you
14d •
A past issue
I haven't written anything much of late, and I have this idea that one day I'll be more healed from nice guybsyndrom than I am, and I'll have all positive words to say. Meanwhile, as I am in the process of healing, and growing in courage, honesty, and integrity, I have to report on an old pattern. This is one tgat has been huge in my life in the past, and seems is still about. I was challenged by a man I respect that I live too mych and reference to much to /in my past. This was when I was sharing with him about why I find celebrating myself hard, and mybexample was from like 4 years old. And after this exchange I remembered how often I have had similar feedback, and how much I think the nice guy people pleaser thing is so linked to trying to get others to heal my past for me. One time I had a slap in the face with this was an ex partner, of who's 2 mail reason's for leaving me, 1 was i was too stucknin the past, too much thinkingbibwas special and my pain / my padt was worse than others. It's taken me a ling time to see the selfishness in padt focus. It's taken me a long time to see the deceit in beingba people pleaser. Another past, present, future, thing for me is that learning thing. Remembering to remeber I am prone to being stuck in the padt, and being now instead, or even thinkingbabout where I'd like to be next (future thinking is a huge challenge for me historicaly, and even now is hard for me to calm myself and focus enough to do). I guess I'm angry, and disappointed in myself, that I still have this . I am aware though, tgat that feeds it, and tge best thing I can probably do is to use that anger to help myself act in the now, and plan a better future. I share this here to let it out, to let out the behavior and bekeifs I don't want to do any more, and to be open to any ideas other men have on these issues. Thanks.
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First sharing here is a great idea. There's no waiting till we're past this and have better positive stories of liberation to share about. We have to share now because that's where the healing is, sharing exactly how we're feeling right now. We're going to be ashamed either way, and it'll feel like the exposing of ourselves is going to make us even more of the thing that we don't want to be. Revealing what we're hiding from will unfortunately confirm that we actually are that way. And then feel even worse cos now we can't hide from it. And have to actually now be it. And think we're going to be stuck there. But it's the first step of seeing and moving through it. Might take months. But at least it's started. And won't be hidden for more years. This is the right place. Secondly, definitely use the emotions of pain and anger to express the frustration or what ever that looks like out into the world. Or at least just to yourself. Let out what ever comes out. Not denying those parts of yourself. I've found with myself that is exactly what I've done my whole life. Told myself I'm not good enough by suppressing all of the so called ugliness about myself that I feel I was told that I wasn't allowed to be, so I never got to grow through that, and in turn just continue to further strengthen my niceguy and peoplepleasing trauma based living mechanisms. Until I have zero idea of who I am, and am automatically subconsciously uncontrollably living as an impostor without any choice. And wondering why it is that I have to live in this hell. I've started to let little bits of emotions out during my day as they come to the surface regardless of where I am or who's there, or who to. Well that's what I try to do. I still end up reverting back to suppressing most of the time, but it's a good practice step that I haven't tried before and feels good afterwards even if it's not desirable. Thank you for sharing and allowing yourself to be vulnerable
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Develop a Morning Routine for Success
Featured Course of The Week! Start Your Day Correctly with Proven Methods to Prime Your Mind and Body for A Successful Day - 8 Lectures - 1 hr of video content - Confidence | Success | Health Special Sale: Only $9 (usually $19). Deal ends this Sunday! Click here to claim the course. Unlock the Your Mind and Body Few people seem to realise that a “good” or a “bad” day is not down to luck. A huge determining factor on how well your day goes depends on how it STARTS. Mostly people just roll unconsciously into the day, completing routines and rituals that no longer have any real meaning, and have not been carefully selected to give them the best possible chance of success. What You’ll Learn in This Course: - Why having a morning routine is so important - How to structure the beginning of your day to ensure you are prepared mentally, socially, physically and spiritually - Creating a habit and ritual of prioritizing yourself in the morning to set a tone of confidence throughout your day - What to do when other people and life-problems make a morning routine “impossible” - How to stack productive days to create momentum and compound interest on your efforts You get to decide how your life goes to some extent, and most of that decision-making occurs at the start of the day, before everyone else gets in your way and starts influencing you. This course is quick, simple, easy and practical. It’s short and to the point, meaning you can smash the whole thing out in a single day and have a morning routine prepared to start tomorrow! See you inside. Enroll now and take control of your life back! Special Sale: Only $9 (usually $19). Deal ends this Sunday! Click here to claim the course. Have a great week! Dan
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Can always learn more to add or takeaway. And help with the journey.
28d •
Brotherhood Group Coaching recording for 2 September
Hey guys, I enjoyed the new format of going around and everyone sharing what they're working on. Maybe next time we could include a "win" from the month before to keep us focused on measuring the right things? The audio and video recordings are now available in the Dropbox folder for this session. Current password to access the folder is here. Extra resources that back up our discussion: - The Secrets to Motivation Course is the most relevant for a deeper dive into this topic (free to paid Brotherhood members). - The Philosophy of Integrity: Finding the Meaning of Life Through Confidence Building - Effective journaling tips for personal growth - The High-Achieving Perfectionist: Why nothing ever feels good enough NEXT CALL TIME: Message or email me if you won't make it and want questions answered, and email me your questions if you can't make it live. Zoom link: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/82202610772 Next month's session is listed in the Brojo Calendar. See you there! Dan
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Am I not logged into something properly. I can't get the password for the recording
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On the journey of a life time. And life didn't begin till I started it. Event though everything in the first 39 years was also a necessary part of it
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