Dana and I set ourselves the rejection task of asking to pet a strangers dog yesterday. We both felt better for it. Today we have set ourselves the task of playing paper scissors rock with a random person. During the social confidence challenge, when I was doing the challenges and breaking out of the norms that we all live inside.... I felt anything was possible... keen to continue

After much reflection and consideration, I’ve decided it’s time to change how I create content. THE CHANGE, IN A NUTSHELL: Starting from next month, I’m going to be exclusively publishing full podcasts. My written posts and email newsletters will be full transcripts of the podcasts (edited to be readable), so that all formats of my educational publications will be long-form and deep. No more shorter videos (<20min) or posts. I won’t be cutting podcasts into smaller pieces or creating short summaries anymore. The podcasts will still be published as videos on YouTube, but full length. In other words, I’m shifting to a quality over quantity model. WHY THIS IS HAPPENING I’ve completed a thorough review of my best coaching clients and the other people I’ve observed who have made the biggest improvements with building their confidence, creating amazing social lives, and generally living with integrity. I found there’s something they all have in common that I didn’t know: They prefer long-form content. I should have guessed, as it makes complete sense. When they want to change, they go deep. They’ve listened to many hours of my podcast, or read my books in full, or completed entire courses. They engage actively in my 30 Day Challenges. They show up for the Brotherhood workshops, taking notes and attempting the homework tasks diligently. And I’m not the only person they’re following! They invest SERIOUS time and effort into their confidence building and self-development education. I’ve also discretely tracked the other members of my audience, specifically: the ones who “lurk” for a long time, often appearing enthusiastic but not seeming to make significant progress. They have something in common too: they prefer lighter content; medium-length videos, short posts, clips, dabbling briefly in courses, etc. Obviously there are a few exceptions, but these trends generally hold true. I’ve had a rude awakening: I’m actually enabling certain people to consume content obsessively without making serious changes!

Congrats to all of you who participated in January's 30 Day Challenge to plan out your 2026 so you can build confidence and create a meaningful lifestyle. I was stoked to see you participate, and pleased with how open, honest and self-humbling you were in your assessments of yourselves, and your goals for this year. It was hard to choose a winner. GRAND PRIZE goes to @Travis Whitney - I was impressed with your honesty, the careful consideration of setting realistic goals, and your dedication to valued living. You have won 6x monthly coaching sessions with me 1:1 to ensure your goals get achieved! RUNNER UP PRIZE goes to @Hemi Rainford - dedication to detail and facing the truth about yourself, while balancing the need to be compassionate and understanding with your progress, will lead to a successful 2026. Enjoy 3 months' worth of VIP Brotherhood on the house :) COMMITMENT PRIZE for the people who participated significantly in the challenge, including the non-paying members who were ineligible for the main prizes, I will host a live workshop exclusively for you to come and get your plans critiqued by me (and the other winners) personally, fine-tuning your plan into a masterpiece. This is booked into the calendar (if you can't make it live you can send through your questions for the recording): https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/calendar?eid=cabe5ba00bf84e9393b8ecd45760d47e Winners: @Aaron Frater , @Prateek G , @Andy Wallam , @Jason Stobart , @Egor Titov , @Lawrence Gibson , @Dana R , @Alee Allana , @Carolina Gallon , @Tyler Scott

Brojo, is lovely platform, i have got some real crazy insight from your course. It has shown me some of my trauma responses that are beautifully being recognized and giving me clarity with beauty Why did I choose to do this course (what I was hoping to learn from it)? I chose the course, cuz i realize i have a lot of SHAME and Embarrassment inside of me, that i need to neutralize. What was the most helpful thing I learned in this course? Being shameless is the real thing, let the world JUDGE You if they like, do not worry. What actions did I try as a result of doing this course? Im implementing by doing little acts of courage by posting vides of self., and know that people will judge or make comments but it doenst matter now. Who do I think this course is best for? It is best for people with codependancy issues, and people who have been raised by narcissists etc.

Are You Being Ruled by Threats That Don’t Exist? One of the strangest patterns I’ve noticed after years of coaching high achievers is this: the more successful someone becomes, the more frightened they are. Not of real danger, but of things that mostly exist in their imagination. I’ve come to think of it as being afraid of ghosts. Invisible threats, invented catastrophes, worst-case scenarios that feel urgent and real, even though there’s no evidence they’re actually going to happen. What makes this especially confusing is that these are smart, capable, highly rational people. They solve complex problems for a living. They manage risk. They make good decisions. And yet, inside their own heads, they’re oddly superstitious, reactive, and constantly on edge. Their nervous systems are stuck in fight or flight, even though their lives are objectively safe. I talk about this in the video using an example from my own life. Years ago, I worked in Corrections, managing high-risk offenders where real danger was part of the job. Constant vigilance made sense there. But when I left that environment, my brain didn’t get the memo. I kept reacting to everyday life as if a crisis was about to erupt. This isn’t unique to me. High achievers are especially vulnerable to this because imagination is one of their greatest strengths. The ability to mentally simulate the future, spot patterns, and anticipate outcomes is what makes people successful in the first place. But that same ability can turn against you. In the video, I break down the difference between real fear and anxiety. I also talk about why high achievers are more likely to trust their thoughts than they should. When your mind has been involved in years of success, it’s easy to assume it must be accurate. But that’s a dangerous assumption. The real cost of this isn’t just stress. It’s relationships sacrificed, joy postponed, rest treated like a threat, and a constant sense that you can’t slow down without everything collapsing. And ironically, the very thing you’re trying to prevent often shows up anyway, because chronic stress makes you less clear, less present, and worse at judgment.