The Weight of Shame · ADHD Harmony™

The Weight of Shame

The weight of the shame that comes with ADHD is no joke. “Classic underachiever” haunted me for decades after someone said that about me. “How can someone with some legit successes not find a way to sustain that?” “What’s wrong with you?” “You just don’t try hard enough!” (When you are dying inside because you are giving all you’ve got and can’t find a consistent path to inner peace and outer success… You start to believe you are defective, and not by chance, but by choice, and that is the real self-esteem killer. And, at the same time, so confusing because there is a part of you that sees where you’ve had success but then you convince yourself that it was a fluke or you really didn’t deserve it or someone made an error in your favor. You’ve learned to discount your wins and over identify with your struggles and “mistakes”. I’ve worked with therapists, counselors, and coaches for years trying to get at the root of my lack of self-esteem but never found it, until now. Before I began this program, I was at wits end, feeling like a failure, wondering if I’d ever get back on track after a series head injury (a tree fell on me while I was hiking in Colorado), deaths of numerous loved ones, and other major, unexpected life events and shifts. I cannot remember how I found

@Jim Ebbelaar

’s ADHD Harmony but I am incredibly, deeply, forever grateful to be a part of this community. To be amongst people who truly understand what life’s like trying to survive in a neurotypical world is a HUGE Gift!! Grateful for Y’all!!!

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