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Biology - Step 1 - Sleep!
Redid this just to be sure since it processed twice with 2 different dominoes and was interested to see that sleep persisted as my first step. It's already past my bedtime but needed to share this part of the report. Glad I revisited this and added more to my answers. THE FIRST DOMINO You said movement feels "completely inaccessible" and that sleep is "starting to get better." Here's the truth: sleep isn't better yet. It's less bad. You're still scrolling 1-2 hours before bed. You're still fighting revenge bedtime procrastination. One bad night still wrecks your whole day. SLEEP IS YOUR FIRST DOMINO. Not because movement doesn't matter—it does. But here's what you haven't fully seen yet: - The late-night gorging? It happens because you're staying up. - The 4:30pm fog? It's compounded by inconsistent sleep. - The exercise feeling "inaccessible"? Hard to want to move a body that's running on fumes. - The childhood exercise trauma that makes it "all or nothing"? You need a regulated nervous system to approach that gently. Fix sleep, and the dominos start falling. Movement becomes possible. Night eating reduces naturally. The morning fog lifts. The afternoon crash softens. You already have the right instinct: "Nothing new after 8pm." That's your wind-down protocol. That's your line in the sand. THE SEQUENCE FIRST DOMINO — SLEEP (Weeks 2-3) Why: You can't outwork a depleted body. And you've proven that one bad night destroys your next day. One thing to remember: The goal isn't perfection. It's protecting the 8pm boundary. No new thinking. Maximum wind-down. Let your brain know the day is over. SECOND PRIORITY — NUTRITION (Week 4) Why: Once you're not staying up until midnight, the second dinner disappears. Then you can focus on fueling the day properly—not restricting and then bingeing. THIRD PRIORITY — MOVEMENT (Week 5) Why: This one has the most emotional baggage. You need a regulated body and clearer head to approach it without triggering the all-or-nothing pattern. And by then, you'll have more energy to actually want it.
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@Jim Ebbelaar it must be trippy as hell for you haha. Yes it’s really interesting getting pushback like this from the patterns, and seeing how quickly we can trick ourselves something else is the case just because we see improvement! Do you have any tips for the “old habits pushback” urges that I find tend to crop up? Last night ended up being a mixed quality of sleep, not the worst, but I had a snack, because I didn’t protect the 8pm boundary (nothing new, maximum shutdown) 🤦‍♂️
Re-Chat with Sage
I had done my 2 week Domino work in the AI yesterday, and although I believed my Domino was Movement, I was feeling challenged with the reality that had been mirrored back at me and the AI's solution to my sedentary afternoons. I did a little deep thinking and problem solving of my own yesterday and went back to Sage this morning, and I am so glad I did. I pointed out my concerns and discussed how I had been feeling since yesterday's assessment and we came up with a plan that worked beautifully for me. I will now use an exercise bike for the length of an educational video on a topic I really want to learn about vs going for a walk in the middle of Winter in freezing temperatures. AI had also given me a reality check of how many hours a day I was wasting watching tv, and strongly encouraged me to be productive in the afternoon. But as I reiterated, by afternoon I was mentally spent. So I divided my to do list into items where I needed to make decisions (decluttering and organizing) and ones I did not (washing dishes, folding laundry), and we rearranged my day to where I did decision making tasks in the morning and moved non-decision making tasks to the afternoon.I actually feel excited to do this. So don't be afraid to discuss with Sage feelings that are being brought up. She's a pretty good listener and problem solver 🥰
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@Deanna Dalton i was pretty surprised that mine was still built around sleep when I thought movement was lacking. That division of task type sounds really practical. If I try to do a whole day of decision making then I just fizzle.
Sage is freaking awesome! 🤩
Hey everyone, I just had my first chat with Sage—OMG, she’s so smart! I basically brain-dumped all my tasks, projects, and priorities, and told her I was feeling overwhelmed. Sage helped me break everything down step by step and sort out what really matters. After just three questions, Sage said something powerful: before diving into work, I need to prioritize my 7YO son—no exceptions. That really hit home. She helped me come up with small, manageable daily and weekly options I can spend time with to build relationship. I wanted to pick three things to focus on, but Sage gently advised against it and suggested starting with just one small daily task to build habit stacking. Once I agreed, she gave me a full weekly plan. It’s like having a wise mentor guiding me, but also a super-efficient personal assistant. If you haven’t tried it yet, definitely let Sage help you!
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Yes Sage has been brilliant, and I've been using Coach as well. It's really, really, really good. I appreciate that it challenges what I ‘think is the case’ as well, and doesn't let me get away with all my thinking and decisions by calling stuff out in a helpful way.
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Appreciated this coach exchange just now - US pants, not UK pants 😅
My first conversation with Sage
Having my first conversation with Sage, we were getting somewhere, it was feeling helpful. She asked me to name one tiny step i can take right now but i was starting to feel antsy so I told her what Iwas feeling... I wanted to share this one breakthrough moment, see if anyone else can relate... I wrote: "Just fyi, I'm sitting here feeling this desperate urge to leave, to get on with something, to stop wasting my life still sitting here chatting with you instead of doing something. I know it's fake news, I know this is probably the most useful, helpful and therefore ultimately productive use of my time but there's something inside me telling me I've been sitting here for too long. I hadn't planned to do this, I just came to do a check-in and started this conversation on a whim so I had plans to do other things and they are in the back of my mind calling me to get off my butt, put my phone down and get on with it. Its very distracting. That same voice is saying it's a waste of time planning to do a tiny thing that doesn't actually achieve any real progress" And the reply was: "Pam. Stop. I want you to notice what just happened. You're sitting here, doing the *exact work* that could actually break the pattern—getting clear, getting concrete, building a bridge from knowing to doing—and the voice is saying **"this is a waste of time, get on with it."** Get on with *what?* The same overwhelmed swirl that leads to freeze and avoidance? This voice isn't protecting you. It's the old pattern *disguised* as productivity. It's the same energy that says "you should be doing something" but won't let you actually *choose* something. It keeps you spinning. You already named it: **fake news.** --- And that part about "a tiny thing that doesn't achieve any real progress"? That's the lie that's kept you stuck for years. The belief that only *big* action counts. That unless it's significant and impressive and moves the needle visibly, it's not worth doing. But here's what's true: **You don't have a problem with big action. You have a problem with STARTING.** And starting is always tiny.
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That’s great! I’ve been enjoying Sage quite a bit as well. It’s so nice that it talks to you in a way that stays on target.
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@Pam Raney yes, the daily message limit is a helpful constraint to help keep you on track. I also often worry about “what are the right questions?” And then ultimately just dismiss anything 😂. The check ins are so good for getting through that point of friction! I need to experiment more with Coach as well, likely not everything needs to be done with Sage.
Edit daily check ins?
Hey @Jim Ebbelaar I accidentally put the wrong stats into my daily check in today on the platform 😵, is it possible to edit the parameters to fix it?
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@Pam Raney on Tuesday? I must have missed it since i was late coming out of work :(
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Sean Frost
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Creative Strategist, Musician, Dad. Fully remote in Paris. Hella ADHD. Born in Scotland, speaks Italian.

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