I run a community for ADHD and I have ADHD - Churn hurts my feelings. Something people do not talk about enough is how intense the first member churn can feel when you have ADHD. When someone leaves, the ADHD brain does not read it as neutral data. It reads it as rejection. Even when you logically know people leave communities for a hundred reasons, RSD can turn that moment into an emotional sting. Did I do something wrong? Did I miss something? Was I not helpful enough? That first churn can land hard. Here is the interesting part though. With time, exposure, and regulation, that sting changes. After more churn happens, your nervous system learns something important. This is not danger. This is not personal. This is normal. As the emotional charge softens, the logical brain is finally able to step in and say, "People come and go. Needs change. Timing matters. Churn is part of every healthy community." That does not mean you stop caring. It means your system no longer treats churn like a threat. This is one of those quiet ADHD growth moments. Not because the feeling disappears instantly, but because you learn how to regulate through it and not let it hijack your sense of safety or competence. Curious question for you: Have you noticed moments where RSD felt intense at first, but softened over time once your nervous system learned it was safe? These are the skills that do not show up on a checklist, but matter just as much.

I swear!!! Washing the laundry? Fine Drying it? Somehow manageable. But folding it… and then making the bed if it’s bedsheet week?? That’s where my brain taps out. 💚 I’ve noticed this with ADHD minds (mine included): It’s not that we can’t do tasks.. it’s that multi-step, boring, low-reward transitions feel disproportionately hard. Laundry isn’t one tasks. Its - • notice it’s done • take it out • fold it • decide where it goes • put it away • (bonus round) remake the bed👾 By the time we get there, the dopamine is gone and the resistance is real. So the clean laundry lives in a pile. And the bedsheet situation becomes… tomorrow’s problem. 😅 ( I slept on the couch for last 3 days I swear) This isn’t laziness. It’s how attention, motivation, and task-switching work differently for ADHD brains. Some tasks just cost more than they look like they should. So now I’m curious 👇What’s YOUR “final level boss” task? The one that feels absurdly hard for no logical reason? Drop it below - let’s normalize the weirdly specific struggles 💚

Hey everyone, do you know this too, that it can be incredibly helpful to decide very clearly in advance how many minutes you want to spend on a task, set a timer, and then just do it, whether it is something work related or something very everyday like showering or cooking. I remember that I used to struggle a lot with this because the thought immediately came up that time pressure creates too much pressure and that pressure is never good. But I have noticed for myself, maybe also because of my ADHD brain, that this helps me a lot and interestingly it almost always works out to the second when I decide on the time beforehand. And the feeling afterwards honestly feels like a small dopamine hit for me. 𝗪𝗵𝗼 𝗲𝗹𝘀𝗲 𝘂𝘀𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝘀 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁 𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗳𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗼𝗿?

My first day off work today, and I've done absolutely nothing. Been looking forward to a dressing gown and TV day. I work hard and long hours, yet feel so guilty for doing nothing. Why does it feel like I'm wasting the day by simply relaxing? Why do I feel guilty for not doing jobs around the house and giving myself the time to just chill for one day? My brain refuses to calm, it's got to keep looking for things to do, it refuses to shut up and just rest. As soon as I try, the little voice kicks in..... what are you doing ? ....you're just lazy ! .... you haven't got time to sit around when theres things to be done..... Why couldn't the H in ADHD stand for happy 🤪

I am exploring using Loom and Notebook LM to organize my content/course. I am mindful of learning styles - so I want written content and video content for ADHD brains. I want feedback - pros, cons, tip, tricks, and hacks! Thanks!