Hey guys Thanks for all your feedback on the previous post about how to improve the engagement in this group. I went live today to talk about these ideas and what changes will happen in this group. I'll wait for your responses before I make those changes happen, so please take a moment to watch the video below or read through the summary notes and let me know your thoughts. This is especially important for those of you wanting to access this group for free! Cheers Dan

Hey guys Firstly, my deepest appreciation to all of you for being part of the group, especially those who interact on the feed and bring some ideas and life into the discussions. I have analytics on Skool that show me many of you are "lurking" - I can see that people read posts and visit the group, occasionally comment (usually when I'm doing some sort of free giveaway), but otherwise don't really post or support others with comments. I want to know what I can do to improve that. I want this to be a place where you feel encouraged and safe to participate actively, help others and share your experience along the way. I've tried a few things already, like 30 day challenges and polls and giveaways, but most of you remain silent. I know one sure-fire way is to make this group paid-only (remove the free membership tier). This is a last resort for me, but I'm running out of ideas. If you want this group to remain free, comment below (or DM me privately if you're not ready to be seen publicly) and let me know what I can do to increase your active participation. Let's build this thing together and have everyone giving in to the group. Cheers Dan

The following is a real live coaching session hosted by Dan Munro, and featuring Brojo veteran Andy. ----------- If you’re a nice guy or people pleaser who’s working actively on becoming more confident, I have no doubt that recently, or soon, you’re going to have an experience where you completely relapse, usually due to some sort of setback from the outside world, getting sick, maybe a parent says something really nasty to you, you go through a big breakup, some stressful event at work, something will knock you off your course, and it makes you feel like you’ve completely reset to zero. You’d probably be quite shocked and disappointed at how quickly the old, nice guy version of you regains power over you. It’s like you’ve completely gone back to the old way of doing things. You have a victim mindset. You’re indulging in the old addictive or self destructive behaviour patterns, the coping mechanisms, and the things that were once easy or getting easier as you grew your confidence now feel really difficult again, like you’ve never done them before. All the old fears have come back, like you’re pushing through mud. Now this is actually a very common dilemma. In fact, it’s an almost necessary part of the nice guy recovery process. Relapse is built into the model of recovery. So the problem is in reaction to a big, unexpected setback, or even a small but significant one, while we’re in the transition phase of building our confidence, we can easily get completely set back to zero, because that’s still the strongest programming we have. In this episode you will witness me coaching a guy named Andy who’s just gone through a massive relapse like this, and is trying to get back on his feet. Last year, during our work together Andy made some really massive gains. A particularly confident move he made was to quit his comfortable but unsatisfying nine to five job and to back himself boldly and responsibly into create a career in art. And for months, things were working. He was getting workshops up and running. He was teaching people. He was doing his art, going to galleries and so on, to present his art to people, even overcoming his fear of their judgments and criticisms.

Action is the ONLY currency to lasting change. Let me keep it simple with this post with no back story so it might sound strange. I'm giving myself 3 days to write an opening segment for my standup comedy routine, practice it and then record it. This Wednesday by March 18th I need to have it recorded. I gotta make some moves and take action. I'm determined. Thanks for everyone's support so far on everything and thanks in advance on this one. Maybe on a later post I'll provide some backstory. For now, the action is more important. I'll keep you all posted.

When nice guys lose momentum, they usually think the problem is burnout. But most of the time… it's actually something else. In a 1:1 coaching session we did live here in Skool, @Andy Wallam came to me feeling stuck after a rough year. In 2025 he left his safe 9-to-5 job to pursue his creative career. Things were going well. Then he got hit with influenza and COVID back-to-back. Months later his body had recovered, but psychologically he still felt that he identified as “the fatigued guy.” And during the session I pointed out something that might sound a bit brutal: He’d slipped back into a victim mindset. This is incredibly common for recovering nice guys. When momentum breaks, the brain grabs the first excuse it can find and quietly pulls you back into the old identity — the one where life is happening to you instead of because of you. In the session we break down: • Why setbacks can reactivate the victim mindset • How fatigue and imposter syndrome reinforce each other • The uncomfortable phase of becoming a responsible man again If you’ve ever felt like you’re capable of more but somehow keep spinning your wheels, you’ll probably recognise yourself in this conversation. The full coaching session is available, enjoy!