Hey guys, thanks for all your feedback on improving the group. One main idea coming through is 30 day challenges. Something fun and practical we can do together as a group. I wanted to put a twist on this, incorporating some kind of playful competitive element that will push us to really step up. Here's the idea: Squid Game 30-day Survival Challenge I'd start the month with some kind of themed challenge, e.g. Assertiveness. A few times per week there would be some small but challenging action to take that can be "proven" to the rest of the group (e.g. "Tell us about a confrontation you're avoiding" or "Screenshot a picture of you telling someone to call you instead of text" or "Post a video of you doing..."). The people who complete the challenge within 48 hours move onto the next round. Those who don't are eliminated and must wait for the next month. I'm thinking BIG prizes for the winners, like 3x months of 1:1 coaching with me for the winner (worth $6k), 3 months of free Brotherhood for the 2nd place, and maybe a Brojo tshirts or books for 3rd. What do you guys think? Let me know what this game would need to include for you to be excited about participating!

Hey guys I'm doing a big planning day this weekend, and much of my focus will be on improving this community. I noticed the chat has died down a bit lately, probably because I've been posting too much content. I'd love to hear from you guys what would you like to see more of/less of in this group to make it a place that's somewhere you want to visit and interact with regularly. Comment below with your ideas, or simply click some of the options I've posted in this poll

So I’ve just been diagnosed with burnout and a mild cognitive impairment plus an adhd sensory processing disorder. I feel like my life has been turned totally upside down. Doing my brojo journey was giving me a direction and now I feel like I’ve been thrown in to a void of strange loneliness.

I was out for a walk just now and saw a couple with a pram (woman was heavily pregnant) some distance away. My instincts said something was off. Got closer and saw the man was giving a drink to the 3-4yo toddler in the pram. As I passed I realised it was a can of beer. This was tough because a) I don't speak czech well and b) how other people parent is none of my business. But I confronted them anyway. Basically said don't do that it's not right. I couldn't understand their response but it was definitely defensive and the man stood up aggressively. I decided to walk away. I hardly wanna scrap a father in front of his child and further fuck up his childhood, or get myself injured when I have my own family to care for. But I'm frustrated. I feel like it wasn't enough. What would you have done?

Lately I've had been thinking a lot about a core theme in all the Brojo material: living authentically. The context to the question I'm about to ask is that I recently started taking the contraceptive pill after being diagnosed with adenomyosis and PCOS (the worst symptom of which was dyspareunia). The first two and half months on the pill were fine and then in the third month I started feeling unusually depressed. Now, I've dealt with high anxiety and very mild depression my whole life, but this depression has been next level. My doctor agreed that while the pill may not be the root cause of the depression, there is significant evidence to suggest that the hormone changes as a result of the pill can at least amplify depression. So, my question to everyone, but especially @Daniel Munro and @Jay Moore , how can we identify who we "authentically" are when there are so many other influences that could be altering our minds and in turn impairing that sense of authentic self? In my case, I've been thinking specifically about the role of hormones on the mind. The contraceptive pill has caused me to feel depressed in a way I would not consider to be "authentically" me and yet it's really colouring my vision of the world at the moment. But even if I wasn't on the pill, we can't deny that hormones play a large role in our lives, prompting this related question: what is "us", and what is hormones? To give an example of something that bothers me on this topic: I am sure that I do not want children and I have felt this way since I was a child, when I first realised that it was an option. Uncovering my shame around this topic has been one of the key outcomes from Brojo — I know it’s not the societal norm, but this choice feels like “me” and I’m willing to lose potential partners in being honest about it. My "authentic" belief is that to feel fulfilled, each individual needs to experience creation and nurturing in some way, but not necessarily in the physical sense of having children. For me, the creation is my writing, and the nurturing is my goal of running a writing retreat centre here in Italy. I do like taking care of others, but I've always been drawn to older people, even as a child myself. All that being said, having engaged with Buddhist teachings, I accept that people are always evolving, even from one second to the next. But while people change, I comfort myself with the thought that they change in a very slow and natural way, let's say at a 45 degree angle over many years, but certainly not a 180. I am not sure what a 45 degree angle on the children question looks like, since you can’t have a quarter of a child, haha. But maybe it’s meeting a partner who accepts that I have never been into babies, who agrees that not all women are built like that, and who is willing to be an active participant in the early parenting as a result — perhaps after many years together, we’d agree just to leave up to fate, not because we want a “baby” (after all, they’re only a baby for a short time) but because we’d enjoy supporting the growth of a new individual. Or maybe 45 degrees for me is a stepchild should I meet a man who has one — I am oddly open to that concept as most kids seem to really like me for some reason. Then again I could go 45 degrees the opposite way and become even more entrenched in my position. I don't know, the point is that 45 degree angles are hard for our present selves to imagine but they do sometimes happen because people do change, and I feel at peace with those changes still being “authentic”. But what scares the living daylights out of me is being told by society that one day “hormones” will suddenly kick in and I’ll be baby-crazy. To me, to go from not wanting children at all for almost my whole life to becoming one of those cervical-mucus-monitoring-fertility-obsessed women would be a total 180. I would argue that such a rapid change couldn’t possibly be my authentic self. The whole hormone thing really freaks me out on so many levels even beyond the baby question.