Hey guys Firstly, my deepest appreciation to all of you for being part of the group, especially those who interact on the feed and bring some ideas and life into the discussions. I have analytics on Skool that show me many of you are "lurking" - I can see that people read posts and visit the group, occasionally comment (usually when I'm doing some sort of free giveaway), but otherwise don't really post or support others with comments. I want to know what I can do to improve that. I want this to be a place where you feel encouraged and safe to participate actively, help others and share your experience along the way. I've tried a few things already, like 30 day challenges and polls and giveaways, but most of you remain silent. I know one sure-fire way is to make this group paid-only (remove the free membership tier). This is a last resort for me, but I'm running out of ideas. If you want this group to remain free, comment below (or DM me privately if you're not ready to be seen publicly) and let me know what I can do to increase your active participation. Let's build this thing together and have everyone giving in to the group. Cheers Dan

In the email screenshot attached, you can see a dilemma my client is going through re committing to his girlfriend. Here is my response: Hey mate From my observations, fear of commitment, especially in Nice Guys, usually comes from 5 main sources 1. Commitment feels like a promise you're not sure you can keep (i.e. confusing committing NOW with a promise that you'll still be committed LATER) 2. Shame / not good enough beliefs, leading you to think I can't commit because I'll get my heart broken when I'm later "discovered" for who I really am and rejected 3. Being a bad "ender", i.e. fearing commitment because you don't trust yourself to end things later if you change your mind, so your commitment would keep you trapped in something you don't want 4. A limiting belief that certainty is a required feeling, i.e. you can't commit until you're "sure" it's a good idea 5. FOMO - thinking that commitment - focusing on one - means missing out on others/many In brief, here are my counters to each of these limiting, inaccurate, and illogical beliefs 1. Commitment just means fully showing up NOW. If you don't phrase it as a promise (e.g. "I promise to always love you), and instead frame it as a commitment, you will feel safer e.g. "I love you and in this moment you're the only person I want to be with, and that's all I can guarantee you". 2. Take it one day at a time. Rather than commiting to a future relationship, just ask yourself, "Do I want to be with her just one more day?" If the answer is yes, then you don't need to worry about anything (e.g. rejection) until after the next day together is completed. 3. Work on your confrontation and boundary setting skills. Prove to yourself that you can end commitments, e.g. quit a gym you no longer use, cut off a toxic friend, permanently give up on a hobby that you're no longer passionate about. Once you show yourself that you won't be trapped by guilt and obligation, then you won't fear making bigger commitments. 4. You can't be certain about something that you haven't yet experienced. You can only be certain about your past experiences. Have your experiences with her been enjoyable? If so, the most likely predictor of the future is the past. That's all you'll ever have to go on. As my old coach once said, "Go when your 80% ready, that's as much as you'll ever be."

What's up group! I'm 16 years old and is wondering what misstakes you did at this age and what you regret not doing. Apreciate you in advance :D

It's that time again - have your say (last one was doing live coaching sessions which we've now started)

Hey guys Today I'll be interviewing Monica Tanner, a certified Relationship Coach with expertise in Relational Life Therapy and Sex Therapy. After her parents’ difficult divorce, she became determined to help couples break free from resentment, improve connection, and create lasting, healthy marriages. What questions would you like me to ask her