Good morning ladies and gentlemen, One thing that I have noticed when it comes to people, people are quick to complain about situations but they did nothing to prevent, change it, or offer an alternative. For example, people complain about the election but did not vote. Some will say I did vote; okay, let’s look at this for a moment. When that person first started his career, did you pay attention to his platform? Or let’s look at work, people complain about the new rule or policies, did you voice your thoughts or opinions in the company suggestion box? When they were talking about problems leading up to this policy did you speak up? Let’s look at laws, people complain about laws, but when they were being discussed in legislation did you attend rallies, when a bill was on the docket before it was passed did you voice your opinion? What’s my point? This is the point, as ladies and gentlemen in this world we live in we have to be aware of the things around us that involve us directly or indirectly. A lot of laws, and decisions are being made around us everyday and we fail to either pay attention or care until they become in effect, then we want to complain about them. This is a critical time for most of us as we get older and are going to rely on the next generation to take over. This means we need to be active in what is happening around us, the next generation coming up they may not have values and morals. So we need to be teaching them the correct ways and how to live, and to make a better future. If we all wait for the next person to get involved or do something then no one will or the wrong people will step up and take over. Let’s make a conscious effort to stay informed and be present in the things around and things that affect us.

To start, let me clarify that this is based on my own life experiences and research so far… It is not intended to be an all and end all view of this attitude or sentiment. Neither am I seeking to establish nor argue whether it is an emotion or attitude, as this is a long and frankly unfruitful debate. We know what is meant by this four-letter word. We use it quite gingerly, a la: I hate winter! It’s -21 Celsius as I write this, and it will likely drop to -24 this evening. My nickname is Sunbum and I even have licence plates with Sunbum1, no need to go into a long harangue on my love of the Sun… Having said this, hate for winter is really not accurate. Let’s just say if I had a choice, I prefer any other season over winter… Hate is a strong word, it promotes visions of Violence and Destruction to name only one visualization…human history and the present is more than enough to get the picture… But it expresses itself in much more subtle and covert ways as well. Before I share my experience, is there anyone else who would like to share their own experience and viewpoint? The purpose is to bring this harbinger of evil into the open where it can be displayed and perhaps destroyed, as it often thrives under the covers...

So my question to you all is are you efficient in what you do or are you not efficient in what you do? Say your at work and your in your A game and then the company asks you to work with someone on let’s say their c or d game . Will this get to you and under your skin or will you find a way through the situation to stay efficient? When you go about your daily routines to get ready for the day, are your going at it with 100% time and energy ? Do you go through your entire day doing everything the right way the fist time and being efficient as possible so your happy with the outcome?

I would like to explore the topic of the rules of being a gentleman or what is a gentleman a lot deeper. There are many different lists out there feel free to post any lists you find. Also feel free to just add single rules or anything relevant to this topic. If there are any rules here that you don’t agree with I would also like to hear about that.

There are many aspects of this journey of becoming ladies and gentlemen, one of the most important aspects is respecting and loving the person that we are in a relationship with. We tend to focus on the others, but we tend to forget the person who we are with. And the reality is that when we change and we become more refine this person might feel left out or that you might not desire them anymore. This is why it is important that you let them know that you are still just as much in love with them now as before, the only difference in that you want to be your best for them Now here is the thing, as we grow on this journey we should also evaluate how we been as are treating the person that we are in a relationship with. Because here is the reality, most people do not love the person they are in a relationship because they do not serve them yes, they do not serve them. Most people are with a person because they use them, they use them for companionship, for convivence, for money, and for many other reasons other than to serve them. Most people do not even know the true definition of love., A deep connection involving selflessness care, profound affection, commitment to another's wellbeing expressed through acceptance, support, and respect. Now I am not here to preach or force religion on anyone, but this is important to life. The bible says we are to love our enemies. So, think about this, we are to treat our enemies better than we treating the person that we are in a relationship with. Hits home, doesn't it? So, make this a part of your journey, recognize, respect, and show affection to the person you are in a relationship with. Don't leave them behind on this journey, encourage them to join you on this journey, you will be surprised how much easier and enjoyable this journey will be when you are not traveling this alone.