Has this ever happened to you?
You’re going out, and when you go to get dressed, this happens… You put on your outfit—something other than stretchy yoga pants, PJs, or sweats—and it doesn’t fit. It’s too tight, or you just don’t feel comfortable in it, let alone confident and attractive. Suddenly, any excitement or happy anticipation of going out drains from you. You no longer want to face the world because you simply don’t feel comfortable in your own skin. So, you put back on your comfy clothes and stay home. But you still don’t feel comfortable. You still don’t feel good about yourself. In fact, you feel miserable and frustrated. You start telling yourself a negative story. You want to go out and do all the things you want to do. You want to fully participate in life and enjoy every moment. You want to show up and be fully present for yourself and your loved ones. You don’t want to look back on your life with frustration and regret. But you don’t know what to do. You feel defeated. You feel cranky and impatient with those around you. You might even lash out at them because you’re hurting inside. It’s hard to find happiness in those moments because when you don’t feel comfortable in your own skin, everything feels off. And you’ve tried all the things. You don’t know what you’re doing wrong. You don’t know what the next step is. You don’t know what’s wrong with you. Why can’t you figure this out? You want more energy. You want to have fun with the people you love most. You want to create good memories and have strong, healthy relationships. You want to live a life without regrets—a better quality of life. A happy life where you feel good about yourself, where you’re energized, enthusiastic, and free. But how the hell do you get there? You’ve tried so many times to figure this out, but nothing has worked. If this resonates with you, know that I have lived that exact scenario countless times. When I was going through this (for years), it was excruciating. I ruined so many happy events because it was hard for me to show up in my life when I felt so awful inside.