Time to man up? · Marriage Recovery Community

Time to man up?

I've been thinking long and hard about this over the last few days and I would really appreciate everyone's opinions.

Quick bit of background. 6 months ago my wife told me she didn't love me any more. Before then I had become depressed and quite grumpy mainly due to life just not panning out the way I had planned. She said that she had tried hard to work on the marriage but I was totally unaware there was an issue. We seemed really happy from my perspective.

Since she told me I've done the usual logical approach, begged and been angry. Since finding

@Mark Cox

and this group it's helped me put a stop to that.

I know that I have issues I need to work on. I didn't see the pain she was going through as I was blind to it. She has issues speaking her mind (she's very close to my family, best friends with my sister, and no one saw this coming) and I know that if she had said to me directly that she was starting to feel differently I would have moved heaven and earth to help her. I love her deeply.

But

I'm am starting to think that maybe I deserve better. I sincerely apologised for what I did and how that made her feel. I've done the work to understand how it happened, why she feels the way she does and told her that I'm willing and want to do the work.

But she's not seeing it that way at all.

Should I be fighting for someone where my word isn't enough? We built a life together, with 2 gorgeous boys, but she doesn't feel our life together is worth fighting for?

I'd love to know your thoughts. Do I have a point or am I being selfish or deluded?

No wrong opinions guys and I'd love to know your thoughts

@Mark Cox

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Time to man up?