Oh and also, I got a surprise this week - out of the blue, my wife told me she would try a marriage counselling session! - something I’ve mentioned multiple times over the past 5 months but she wouldn’t have any of it! I’m trying not to over think it but I can’t help But see it as progress even in a small way!

@Mark Cox yes I agree and yes she is currently sleeping downstairs in the front room (and I’m sure this is only because she can’t afford or has anywhere else to go) and I think she is quite happy with current situation. But cracks have been forming for her life and choices - which is why I’m thinking she is now re thinking things a little. So this maybe her wake up or it might be part of her continuing to cover it - we will see. But through all of this I’ve been constant - solid for the kids and household. With a little more time being spent on me and my needs. - I took my first ever solo trip to Ireland for the weekend few weeks back to see an old friend. - loved it (wife not so much!) Apologies if my posts are coming across a little big headed / it’s not my intention - I just want to put out there that there is hope and we can get through the dark times.

Really good advice and appreciate you doing this. 👍🏼👍🏼

Hi mark. My win this week is I took my 3 kids away for a few nights on my own for the first time ever - and we all survived!!! We got home today and I honestly feel better for the experience. At times I was panicking and thinking what am I doing - and how odd it felt to do it without my wife. But now I’ve done it I can honestly say I’m made up I did it. I feel like a good father and feel better in myself. I’m in bed now and reflecting on the the last few days. If my wife can’t see my worth then she it’s worth my time. I know that sounds like I’m giving up on her but it’s not that. I just have more respect for myself now and I know I’m getting better with or without her.

Hi terry - hang on in there mate - I feel like I’m in a similar situation. But honestly. Work on yourself. Know your a good man and ground yourself - know your worth. You will find it gets easier that way. It’s been 4 months for me. House has Been valued and as I text you this now - my wife is out drinking with friends while I’m at home keeping my children stable and working on me. A few weeks ago in this same situation I would be spiralling and panicking thinking of all kinds of stuff. But tonight I’m calm. I know my worth. And I know I’m a better man for this situation. - I’m not happy it has happened but I know I’ve gotten through it and I’ve made the best of it. I’m better for it oddly. - im a better father now. And im a better man. If your wife doesn’t see it. Then it’s her loss. Keep going mate. The fact your on here in the first place shows your worth.

Would have loved to attend this but I’m away with kids this week. Hopefully more to come that i can catch in future. 👍🏼