I read this article that spoke into the 'Black Coffee Theory'. Across workplaces and personal growth journeys, there’s a simple, yet revealing pattern: people often describe their goals through avoidance. They say what they don’t want: “I don’t want burnout,” “I don’t want uncertainty,” “I don’t want to feel stuck.” This is where the Black Coffee Theory comes in. Imagine someone walks into a café and repeatedly tells the barista, “I don’t want black coffee.” The barista, hearing nothing else, remembers only that. And chances are, black coffee is exactly what ends up at the table. When we fixate on what we’re trying to escape from, our energy, choices, and mindset stay anchored to that very outcome. Avoidance feels like clarity, but it’s actually directionless. Even Einstein’s insight applies here: problems can’t be solved from the same level of thinking that created them. If the focus is only on frustration, scarcity, or fear, those patterns quietly repeat themselves. But when we shift towards defining what we do want like growth, stability, creativity, abundance, our internal compass realigns. Our decisions sharpen. Our opportunities expand. Progress becomes possible the moment we stops ordering life by saying “not this,” and starts asking for what we truly want. Here's your opportunity-share what you WANT and let's manifest your greatest dream together!