Most organizing advice assumes you have unlimited decision-making capacity. You don't. Research shows we make about 35,000 decisions per day. By evening, you're depleted. That's why the mail piles up, the counters stay cluttered, and you can't bring yourself to deal with it. You're not lazy. You're experiencing decision fatigue. The solution isn't willpower. It's decision architecture. Instead of deciding what to do with every single item every single day, you create frameworks: - "Mail gets processed Saturday mornings only" - "If I haven't used it in 6 months and don't have a specific plan to use it, it goes" - "Clothes that don't fit current me get released with gratitude" Pre-made decisions eliminate the daily drain. This is part of The CLEAR System™—my framework for creating sustainable clarity without exhausting yourself. Curious about it? I share the method in my community. Join the free community COZYISM and learn more.

Ever feel like your child shifts moods so fast it gives you whiplash? They’re happy. Playing. Laughing. And then suddenly… tears, anger, shutdown, or explosive behaviour. And you’re left thinking, “What just happened?” Here’s something most parenting advice never talks about: Sensitive children don’t just experience their own emotions. They also connect with and experience the emotional energy around them. If you’ve had a stressful morning… If school felt overwhelming… If someone nearby was anxious, frustrated, or upset… Your child may be responding to something that isn’t even “theirs.” And because we’ve all been taught that we only feel our own emotions, they automatically assume what they’re experiencing belongs to them - and they attach it to whatever is happening in their world. That’s when the meltdown seems “random.” TODAY’S TIP (start to practice this when it’s not crisis time) As you step in to calm your child, remember: They may have just connected with your emotional state - or someone nearby - and it’s pushed them past their ability to cope. While managing the behaviour, pause and ask yourself: • “Is this emotion actually theirs?” • “Whose energy might they have connected with?” (someone mentioned, looked at, or thought about?) • “Am I truly calm, or did something trigger me - even briefly?” Start by acknowledging their experience. It might be emotional, physical, or even racing thoughts. Even if you’re unsure what’s happening, make a gentle general statement so they feel seen. Then refocus yourself first. Find a calm, centred, loving space within you. Use a memory if needed - a sunset, a pet, a moment that makes everything inside you soften and sigh. Feel the feeling… then let the image go. Now help them reset instead of trying to reason. Simple 2-3 minute reset: • Place your hand gently on their back • Take two slow breaths together • Say softly: “Let’s let go of anything that wasn’t yours today.” • Have them shake their hands or feet and imagine it falling away