One of the fastest ways to make a parent question everything is hearing:
"She ate it at school."
Wait.
The same child who cried because the noodle looked different?
The same child who hasn't touched pasta in months?
That child?
I hear versions of this all the time:
"My son's teacher says he eats foods at school that he won't even look at at home."
"She tries things for her classmates that she refuses for me."
"The lunchroom gets a different kid than I do."
As frustrating as this feels, this doesn't mean they’ll never eat it in your presence.
Eating is influenced by so much more than hunger.
• social dynamics and peer modeling
• nervous system regulation
• sensory load throughout the day
• predictability and routines
• masking all day and crashing at home
• feeling safe enough to show struggles
Sometimes the behavior starts to make a lot more sense when we understand what's happening beneath it.
I created a free guide that helps parents uncover some of the hidden reasons eating can feel so complicated. I'm curious—has your child ever eaten something at school, daycare, or a friend's house that they completely refuse at home?