Most guys care what people think of them. A LOT. They outsource their self-worth to the real and imagined judgments of others. A vague look, a sharp tone, an eye-roll, a slow reply, a bit of criticism… and suddenly you’re doing mental gymnastics trying to “fix” how you’re perceived. Of all the Nice Guy Syndrome problems I've had, this is one of the few that I feel I have completely CURED for myself. I'm now at the point where caring about someone's opinion of me doesn't even make sense; it simply doesn't register as information that matters to me at all. I believe anyone can learn to let go of caring what others think and getting defensive. It's just a matter of changing the way you get validation and process reactions from others. So I've created a practical playbook-style guide you can use to stop being needy for validation and emotionally hurt by criticism from other people. This concise guide covers: - What it really means to "care" what others think - The mental model: how to fill your own cup with self-validation - The 7 filters that make judgements against you powerless - The practical exercise (do this today) to make this real - The “never defend yourself” drill - Build your self-worth system (the real foundation to long term confidence) Comment "Confident!" to get a copy of it! You have until the end of Fri this week to get your copy. This playbook is a brief guide for the "How to Not Give a Fuck" workshop I'll be running next Tues, (exclusive and free for VIP members only): https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/calendar?eid=fd962f8e69b4497e941dfbb8ad760da7 This short workshop will be all about how to train yourself to stop caring what other people think of you, so that you're socially confident and free at all times! Dan

Hey guys To celebrate and promote the upcoming Social Confidence Workshop, I'm giving away an old Body Language training tool I used in a previous workshop. Comment "confidence" below and I'll send it to you. Reminder: You must be a VIP member to join the workshop, which is on this Saturday! 👉 Upgrade your membership to VIP (Brotherhood) to join the Social Confidence Workshop here: https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/plans

I was out for a walk just now and saw a couple with a pram (woman was heavily pregnant) some distance away. My instincts said something was off. Got closer and saw the man was giving a drink to the 3-4yo toddler in the pram. As I passed I realised it was a can of beer. This was tough because a) I don't speak czech well and b) how other people parent is none of my business. But I confronted them anyway. Basically said don't do that it's not right. I couldn't understand their response but it was definitely defensive and the man stood up aggressively. I decided to walk away. I hardly wanna scrap a father in front of his child and further fuck up his childhood, or get myself injured when I have my own family to care for. But I'm frustrated. I feel like it wasn't enough. What would you have done?

Reminder that we're meeting tomorrow (see Calendar tab for your timezone). If you can't make it live, DM me your questions and I'll answer them on the call. See you there! PS. This is exclusive to paid Brotherhood members and 1:1 coaching clients only. If you'd like to join, DM me asap

I moved from Slovakia to Ireland 20 years ago to start my own life, more oportunities, better me, happy life. Im married with 2 kids (boy 12, a girl 10). I used to be very competitive (in sports and academically). I worked as a teacher home country, then jobs to survive abroad when travelling like lifeguarding, restaurants, fitness instructor etc. Later on I was lucky and working hard to get a fulfilling job, I work as a paramedic and firefighter in Dublin, ambulances, fires, water rescue, rope rescues etc last 10years. Im a nice guy who recently realised its a syndrome by random web searching for some answers. Then I listened several podcasts, viewed a few videos, read robert glovers book, all started with one lucky dan munro online encounter. It was like polishing some board which turned out to be a mirror. Then I realised this mirror showed me a distorted vision of myself.. What do I hope do get from being here? No idea, Im curious myself, in a meantime I might do some courses, I started with Overcome Nice Guy Syndrome & Build Social Confidence one. Time will show.