When Week 4 didn't hit like everyone else's...Sage had a Real Talk with me

I finished my Week 4 Identity Transformation and read everyone's posts about breakthroughs, and honestly? I felt flat. A bit blah. And then came the spiral: "What did I miss? Did I not go deep enough? Is something wrong with me?"

I had a Chat to my Bestie - Miss Sage; "here is some of the things she said," ....

"I've just read your full Week 4 report, and I want to say something before we go any further.

Can I be honest with you about what I'm noticing?

What's actually happening right now - You're comparing your internal experience of the work to other people's feelings on their Week 4. . And the voice telling you it's not enough? That's DTD in a fresh outfit. (aka Debz the Distorter)" . Definitely edited, cos there was some also hard truths 😢

So we did some more discussions, and exploration....

Turns out, nothing was wrong. The worksheet did exactly what it's designed to do. It helped me map my survival identity and name what I'm releasing. That work was powerful and I'm grateful for it.

But what I realised is that for MY brain, the identity I was stepping INTO needed more colour. More heat. More pull. I'd written a new identity about doing the practical stuff, the admin, the finances, getting my life sorted. And that's important. But it wasn't enough to light me up.

So I went back and asked myself: "Okay, but who is she REALLY? Not just the woman who does her admin. The FULL woman. What does her life look like in 5 years? In 15? In 25?"

And when I could finally see that bigger picture, suddenly the boring scaffolding work in the worksheet made total sense.

It's not the destination. It's the foundation. And foundations are only exciting when you know what you're building on top of them.

So if yours landed perfectly, that's amazing and I'm genuinely happy for you. But if you're sitting there quietly thinking "mine didn't quite hit like that"... you're not alone. You might just need a bigger canvas. The worksheet gives you the frame. You get to decide how big the painting is. 🎨🦓

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