Just did the Identity Transformation worksheet and named something I've been carrying for decades: the "little wife" / Invisible Pleaser identity. The woman who stays soft enough to disappear, who gives her gifts away for free, who lives behind a menu of "ors" instead of one clear yes. This morning I cut my hair short for summer. He likes it long. I like it short. That haircut is the whole new identity in one act - I chose me. Ready for the breathwork. Playing full out this time.