Opening up about my relationship and struggles in my latest video on YouTube! Enjoy! https://youtu.be/PzpJG_wzBao?si=MPrqZgoBSiRnnNOL

Hey guys, I hope you are all well. A couple of hours ago I watched Tom's latest video and wrote a comment, which I would like to also leave here, as it is more likely that it reach and potentioally help someone. First off I want to say great video man. I am currently 19 and I can strongly relate to most things if not all. I have got so many things to be grateful for - I have a job, I make good money, I go to university, I have good friends, I have a loving family, yet I still feel behind, I still feel like I'm not doing good enough, I still forget to appreciate what I already have. And I too have been trying to learn how to take a step back, to not worry. Literally my older sister who is 24 feels behind in life, just because she chose to study first before getting a job and doesn't yet make money. My point is - even when you reach that thing you strive for, you will still start longing for something else you don't yet have. Some people say I'm doing extremely well for my age and it probably is somewhat true, but I can't fully see it. My biggest struggle is probably #14(Be with people who choose you(love interest)) at the moment it has been for a while, but I have learned a lot trough trial and error. I wil be honest, the other day I had a mental breakdown, because of this, and early in the morning I got news that a relative of mine has passed away, which just all hit like a train. Still I'm trying my best, and everyone should, despite wherever they are at. Yes you will fail daily, yes you will have tough moments, but it is part of the journey. Take care y'all and apologies if I sounded harsh, arrogant or something like it

As some of you knows from my previous posts i have been in a bad state of life as well as bad relationship that causes it. In short for those who might not know my situation- my girlfriend has taken away my social media, dreams, hobbies and controls every single little thing in my life I would love some opinions and toughts on these things: 1. Should i leave if i know it might cause her to do bad stuff to herself and i might ruin her school progress? 2. If you answered yes to 1- how should i do it in the nicest way possible and how do i get the strenght to do so? 3. If you answered no to 1- what could i do to make this better and get out of the bad cycles without leaving her? Thanks to everyone for your time and opinion/toughts. Have a nice day y'all🌞😊

Hi recently i have been trying to understand and improve upon communication skills , relationships , psychology type stuff etc and i am rly feeling too overwhelmed and exhausted . For ex the week before this week for amazing when i started to focus less on other people but rather on me . But this week i am exhausted every time it is rly hard and improving on all this had affected me as from two days from now i have my exams and i am just not able to study . Whenever i try i just cant focus and from the past few days i am again going back to old self where i overthink every single thing . I keep thinking abt in the past around 2yrs ago where apparently i was very famous and all . I also again go back to think abt a girl . I am again overthinking every convo(like i used to do some time ago) i have with my friends at school and again feeling i am playing all those mental tricks instead of actually be what i am and focus less on other opinion . Also ik what the life is online is just a part but seeing things like u should make friends now improve ur relation with them they are the one who will stay with you for ur life and help . Seeing various shorts with people with different thing trying and posting all sorts of thing is putting a toll on my life . Recently i was not posting bcuz i felt i was fine but in the past few days i am just not able to cope up . My exams are coming and i am just not able to study and to tell i am like a rly good in studies but this time i didnt complete my syllabus the problem is i am not even trying to do in such a crisis also . Earlier whenever this happened i used to do in the last days but i am just not willing to study and keep thinking abt friendships , relationships and all the various social stuff wayyyy too much .. I see all the video being uploaded on yt and here also various things but idk why rn i am not priortizing my studies (may be bcuz these exams dont impact my results) but i have real big exams coming up in the next 2 months .

Hi guys, I haven’t really been active in the community, but Tom’s recent post about relationships caught my attention. I noticed most votes were about the dating scene and only a few about heartbreak. I’ve been struggling with moving on for the past half year, so I want to share my experience. I’ll start with some background so the story makes sense - you can skip to the lessons if you want. 1. Self-improvement I first got into self-improvement at 17 through a YouTuber called Matt Spear. In the beginning everything felt great - I was improving every day, working out consistently, delaying gratification, and spending more time on things I genuinely enjoyed like making videos instead of chasing quick pleasure. 2. Overcoming loneliness Soon after, I found Hamza and learned about the red pill. It hit me hard, especially because I was still trying to move on from a girl who had rejected me. His practices made me more disciplined, but I also became very isolated. I started seeing people as “against me” and became antisocial. What helped was a classmate who sat next to me. Looking back, I’m really grateful to him because talking to him pulled me out of that lonely state. Over the next few months, I reconnected with more classmates and eventually got over the girl. I’ve always been an introvert, so I wasn’t putting myself out much. But over the next year I grew more mature, joined more social activities, and tried new things. I wasn’t pursuing girls and mostly stuck with groups of guys, but I was at least open to talking to people again. 3. Getting close to someone Another year passed, with ups and downs, until prom season came around. I didn’t have a prom date, but a good female friend of mine asked me to be her “gentleman” at her prom. The person who was originally supposed to go with her was her cousin, but he couldn’t, so I agreed. We were classmates back in 4th and 5th grade before she moved away, and I’d always had some suspicion she might like me. I traveled over 250 km and booked a hostel to be there. The prom went great, and afterwards we chatted almost daily. She seemed genuinely happy, which stood out because she used to be more of an “emo” type.