How to stop caring about what people may say/think
Hey Shimon’s Tribe! I could really use some advice. I’m 15, and there’s something that keeps showing up in my life. I care way too much about what people think of me—what they might say, how they might look at me—and it’s starting to hold me back from doing the things I actually want to do. For example, I recently started track and field. I want to get better, but I don’t like going to races because I know I’m not that fast yet, and I worry I’ll embarrass myself or that people will talk about me. Since I’m the one living through it, their opinions feel like they hit me harder. And even though I know they’re not in my shoes, it’s still hard—because I know they don’t understand what it’s like to be in my position. What I really want is to care more about improving and less about what people think. I wish I could just focus on getting better without being so caught up in how others might see me. When I was younger, I didn’t think about this stuff—I just did what I wanted. Maybe that’s because everyone was younger and things felt lighter. But now it’s showing up in different areas of my life, and I think about it all day. I’m about to be a junior in high school, and sometimes I feel like it might be too late for me to grow past this or to get good enough in time. But I really want to change—I just don’t know how. If anyone’s been through this or has any tips or advice, I’d be really grateful. Thanks for reading 💙