Heads up, now that the June deadline has passed, I'm slowly removing people from the group one by one who aren't either paying or contributing monthly posts. I won't be sending any more personal emails or messages, I think I've done my best to give everyone a decent chance to maintain their memberships. If you're already a paying member, or you've contributed a post within the last month, you have nothing to worry about. Keep paying or posting each month and you're golden. Once the purge has completed, I'll be adding a lot more valuable stuff to the group too!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FuPe6ZfrgBg Hi Guys, I've worked with Dan in the past and he helped me tremendously in building my self-confidence and my overall self-esteem and self-talk with myself. Ever since then, the idea of confidence has been an important part of my day-to-day life. In Mark Manson's 4-hour podcast on confidence, he concludes that confidence is actually not necessarily something to be pursued...it should be Courage, and that confidence is actually the positive side effect of enough repetitions of a said skill/action. There's definitely a difference between having confidence in doing something (like competence), and having SELF-confidence, but of course it's important to distinguish between a healthy self-positive image and opinion of one's self, and overconfidence/self-delusion/narcissism. I thought the podcast was very interesting and engaging and found it relevant to post on this group. If anyone else has listened to it, would love to hear your thoughts on it.

I am considering time tracking because I feel I don't have enough time during my day to fit in all my activities. I have done it in the past, and it worked quite well for me to be aware of when I was wasting time and helped incentivize me to reduce that. However I am not sure if this is sustainable as it takes a lot of mental effort to remember to switch activities in the time tracker when doing something else. Any thoughts?

It's that time again! Comment below by calling your shot for this week: What healthy, value-based action do you commit to doing this week to improve your life? And how did you get on with last week's commitment? https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/monday-accountability-1c72115a

I have the two most amazing friends, Julian and Alison, we met at University more than 30 years ago. Our friendships are as strong now as they were during the honeymoon period. Probably stronger because we have been through a lot together. 30 years is a long time! In Autumn, I will have an operation in my colon and I suppose to have someone with me. I've been back in the Canaries for 6 years and I have met people. Fair-weather friends some of them, others I had to change so they felt comfortable around me. I have two sisters. One of them used to abuse when I was a child, and now as an adult, she thrives in looking for things to belittle me. Would I want her around me the day of my operation - no thanks. Plus I would make me a hypocrite. I know that my younger sister would do it for me, but unfortunately I don't have a date yet for the operation. The last time I had this operation, they called me the week before the operation! So, I am not sure she would have enough time to ask for the day off. And the other question, would she want to be there? Six years, lots of effort and when I suppose to have the assistance of someone, I don't really feel like I have anyone close enough to be there. Society says family is important. I say family - family blood- just water with colourants!