Feb 12 • General discussion
Mindset and dealing with online hate
Honestly didn’t want to write this, I erased my initial post but I figured this may serve as a reminder to push through even when you feel like the whole world is trying to sabotage you and your whole existence.
STORY TIME: it’s not a fairy tale sadly as this quickly became the biggest thorn in my behind in a long time.
So yesterday I had a nice surprise finding myself shared on the Animal Save Movement’s Facebook page (thought it was sweet, didn’t know about it until I was scrolling and saw me back in November as part of their posts, loved it no complaints).
But the comment section has had me on a huge crash out since I saw it. All the fat shaming, homophobia, ageism, on top of the vegan hate was staggering. Comparing me to being an ankle grabber, or looking as plump as the chicken they want to eat really messed me up. There may be like two nice comments out of the hundreds of nasty ones.
I know there’s lots of bots and meatflakes out there, but to experience that much online hate in one sitting was a lot for me. I already have and still struggle with body dysmorphia, I have been trying to unlearn a lot of self hatred and negativity for a long time. Honestly this whole situation really set me back today and yesterday. I didn’t think I would be triggered as much as I am but I let it derail my workout today and my whole morning. I did work out but I feel like I could have accomplished so much more if I didn’t let my brain take all that in.
Yes I know having an online social media presence that’s growing comes with good and bad, but again as someone who’s actively trying to just do the best for longevity and confidence purposes, who has built thick skin to deal with stuff this really took me on a rollercoaster today.
I know well enough to not overly feed into it but I was appalled at it all. What I thought was a good thing felt like I was being exposed in some crazy not so fun clown funhouse. I still struggle with photos including progress ones but I have gotten tolerably okay with seeing myself in photos. But I also recognise I’ve made progress, put on muscle lost around 45 lbs of fat. I see results even if I had to experience this hate it has at least for today set me back. Body dysmorphia and unrealistic standards that exist out there, I still struggle with greatly. But it’s a journey like fitness, I can’t expect to have a quick fix or I can’t expect to live up to fabricated fitness or aesthetic standards that are even more elevated in the LGBTQ2SA+ community 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️. I’m an empath, I care too much and as much as I’m an advocate for others including the animals, I often get lost in it myself in a trance.
However I did see a wonderful quote today on Instagram though that inspired me to write this post so that’s why we are at this, sharing it now with you in our lovely community.
You can’t control the lens people see you through but you can only control how you show up. It was the most random reminder that sort of has snapped me out of a completely self sabotage of a day.
Again just be kind to yourself, remember it’s a journey not a quick fix. Even if the world is loud full of hate and oppression, pockets and communities of peace, love and light exist.
Those peace, love and light communities need more people showing up for themselves and being kind to themselves everyday to continue personal and collective empowerment long term - be that for yourself. Don’t let hate, division and oppression win over. We can’t always control the keyboard warriors, and the bots, and the meatflakes or even those hateful, insecure people that are hating on you doing well for yourself that they can’t match for themselves, or don’t want to bad enough. Be you!
Sorry for rambling, it’s been a hot minute. Trying to remind myself the same things I wrote about.
Love you all and I hope this reaches someone who needs a reminder to not feed into all the hate in the world, to love yourself as much as you love the animals. We are a safe space for each other and as a community You are enough, you are worth it. The strongest advocates, activists come from the kindest compassionate people who want a better world, the same people who have witnessed and or experienced hardship/suffering.
Happy Thursday Squad.
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Mindset and dealing with online hate
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