I want to share an important lesson I learned about trust in a relationship and a mistake I made that almost cost me mine. When I first got with my partner, I thought I was 100% ready, but what I didn’t realise was that I hadn’t healed from my past traumas. Deep down, I still had trust issues… In the early stages, I started getting jealous and overly protective over the smallest things and that wasn’t fair at all, she had done nothing wrong. They were my problems that I brought into the relationship and expected her to ‘deal with.’ But the truth is, my partner had never given me a reason not to trust her. I was doubting her and trying to control situations because of my own problems. Sorry for the long post but what I’m trying to say here is that your partner isn’t responsible for healing your wounds. They will absolutely support them and help you with them but it’s up to you to ensure you don’t let them get in the way of a relationship as your partner deserves to be given that trust and that love from you. Not doubt and worry.

This year I was asked to do the best man for a wedding and you know what that means… the best man speech. You might think this would be easy for me, I’ve made loads of YouTube videos and presented for some of the biggest UK brands but here’s the thing, I still get nervous as s***. But I do it anyway. And this is honestly what I think separates the 90% with the 10%. We are all human. I get sad. I get happy. I get nervous. I get excited. I feel all sorts of emotions, it’s normal! But actually taking the action and doing the thing despite how you feel is what truly makes you GREAT! So I knew that when my best mate asked me to do a speech I would be absolutely terrified but I said yes because if I want to reach my goals and speak in front of a bigger crowd, I’ve gotta start by taking a small step. Thanks for listening to my TED talk. Please share a story of when you were absolutely terrified of doing something but did it anyway under this post! I would love to hear your stories and inspire others.

I've found this challenge online which I've heard before and I'm sure you have too called the dopamine detox. This is my first time really looking into it, and it's very appealing to me. To explain quickly what it is, it's a detox from all fake dopamine in your life, such as doom scrolling, lusting or porn, social media, etc. For me personally, I'm addicted to doom scrolling, so that's the main thing I am cutting out, but of course I'm also stopping the rest. To substitute for this loss of quick, instant dopamine, you find natural ways to get it, like what we would do before scrolling was a thing. I've compiled a list of 20 thing's good for you to do instead of falling into quick dopamine again, and I'll put it below, feel free to add as you like. 1. Read the Bible 2. Journal / Meditate / Pray 3. Exercise (Anything physical) 4. Cook a good meal 5. Learn a new skill 6. Work 7. Socialize (Facetime and text count but physically is preferred) 8. Watch 'productive' content. 9. Go for a walk outside 10. Work on a hobby 11. Read a book 12. Listen to music 13. Drink Water 14. Sit calmly, do nothing, enjoy life 15. Shower 16. Help somebody 17. Study for either educational or personal purposes 18. Talk to women specifically (or your gf) 19. Talk to family (not just immediate) 20. Take a power nap I'm going to be doing this for only 7 days, as apparently that's all you need to have a noticeable impact and to have a mental drive to stay away from the quick dopamine. That being said, after these 7 days, I'm still going to avoid falling into the same traps I did before, as their effect remains the same. I'm letting everyone in this community know about this incase you want to attempt it with me, or do it on your own time. I hope you found this helpful!

You know when you go to the gym, do the first set and just KNOW it’s gonna be a bad session? Yeah that was me today… But here you can see I’m smiling, why? Because I’ve stopped attaching my self worth to results and the destination and started focusing on the most important thing, showing up and getting it done. I used to have a bad session and it would ruin my day. My momentum would be gone, I would feel deflated and completely down. but the truth is, bad days are coming. It’s just part of the journey. You aren’t always going to wake up and feel motivated, you aren’t always going to have PB’s and lift heavier than you’ve ever done before, and that’s okay. As long as you keep turning up through those bad sessions, you are going to get better. So please stop trying to be perfect in everything you do and focus on just doing your best each day. You will make mistakes but you will also learn loads of new things and become even better because of it. You got this! Have a good sunday

The reality of my life…😂 It might look like all fun and games on YouTube but this is a reminder to stop comparing your life to highlight reels you see on social media all the time. I absolutely love what I do which is why I can do it for so long but it’s not always so glamorous😂