Script Framework: 1. Name the pattern calmly: “You said you’d call yesterday — when you don’t follow through, it makes it hard to trust you with bigger things.” 2. State your boundary: “I need consistency with small commitments before I can say yes to bigger asks.” 3. Hold the line without over-explaining. This isn’t about shaming — it’s nervous system safety. Predictability is the foundation of trust. Train people how to relate to you by holding this standard.

Mission: Pick one habit you’ve been forcing. 1. Write how your body resists (tired, anxious, distracted). 2. Ask: “What does my body think it’s protecting me from?” 3. Redesign the habit so it feels safer (smaller step, different timing, new anchor). Post your redesign in here — the shift is learning to work with your system, not against it.

Steps: 1. Ground with 1 full breath in through the nose, out slow through the mouth. 2. Out loud: “That’s my body scanning, not my truth.” 3. Clap once, stand up, and shake arms for 10 seconds. 4. Redirect: name 3 real things in the room right now. Repeat 2–3 times. Over time your body learns the “what if” doesn’t need to be chased.

Challenge: This week, ask for ONE thing you need from someone else. Why it works: Clear, direct requests train your nervous system that vulnerability doesn’t equal danger. Rules: - Be specific (“Could you call me at 7 to make sure I leave on time?”) - No apologising for asking. - Notice your body’s reaction before, during, and after. Report Back: Post your win in here so we can celebrate and reinforce the shift. Even if it felt awkward, share — that’s where the rewiring happens.

Steps: 1. Ground – 2 deep belly breaths. 2. Script: “Could you [specific request] so I can [reason linked to value]?” Example: “Could you pick up the kids so I can be present for my client session?” 3. Pause – Let silence do the work. 4. Notice – Heart rate may rise; stay grounded until it passes. Over time, the nervous system learns that receiving doesn’t equal danger. Your Turn: Use this script once this week. Come back here and share what you noticed — not just what they said, but what happened in your body.