20d • General discussion
Ever feel invisible in your relationship?
Feeling invisible in your relationship is one of the most painful experiences you can have.
It’s like you’ve faded into the background of your own relationship.
Sadly, it’s very common and it’s one of the struggles I hear a lot from clients in my relationship trainings.
Here’s what’s interesting…
When you become invisible in your relationship, it’s not usually because of a lack of love.
It’s not even that your partner doesn’t care or that they aren’t trying…
More often than not, most partners do genuinely care; they are committed, and they believe they’re doing everything right.
And they’re right… at least on the surface.
They are there.
But something essential is missing.
But being physically present isn’t the same as being emotionally engaged.
If you ever feel invisible, it’s because you stop really seeing each other.
Somewhere along the way, the spark of truly noticing each other has faded.
Invisibility comes from being present without attention and connection.
It’s conversations where you nod, but don’t truly listen.
It’s the routines where you touch, but don’t actually feel.
It’s the habitual hug or kiss that carries no real sentiment.
It’s the daily routines that keep you side by side, but not truly connected.
This is how invisibility creeps in.
It’s not through absence, but through attention that has grown shallow.
And it means a person can sit next to the one they love and still feel erased.
When this happens, I challenge couples to do something really powerful…
And it’s super simple…
Sit opposite one another and look into each other’s eyes.
Really see each other again.
Not just as the parent, the partner, or the provider, but as the whole, complex person sitting across from you.
Really look.
See the person in front of you.
See the person you first fell in love with.
When someone feels seen, the smallest gesture, be it a glance, a kind word, a handheld with intention, can bring your relationship back to life.
And that shift doesn’t require grand changes.
It requires presence with attention.
So if it’s ok to ask, do you feel seen in your relationship?
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Ever feel invisible in your relationship?
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