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...if you let go of what's holding you back?

A client asked me recently, “If I love my partner, then why am I not happy?” This question struck me as it goes deeper than love alone. You see, even when love is there, it can get meshed with our old wounds from the past. And if those old wounds aren’t healed, then it’s difficult to be who we really want to be in the present. It’s why you can care deeply for someone and still carry loneliness inside. It’s why moments of affection can still feel empty. It’s why being “loved” doesn’t always mean feeling fully seen. Because love alone doesn't erase patterns we've built over years; patterns of keeping quiet, patterns of keeping small, or patterns of choosing peace over honesty. Happiness in a relationship isn't just about loving someone, it's about feeling safe to be fully yourself with them. Without that, love can feel like it’s missing something essential. And if you've spent a lifetime without breaking the old patterns it will mean that even the warmest love can feel like it's missing something. Breaking those patterns isn’t easy. It asks us to risk discomfort, to use our voice when silence feels safer, and to choose truth even when it feels uncertain. But this is the path to bringing your full self into a relationship. Because only when you allow yourself to be fully seen can you experience love that feels whole. Ask yourself if you’re showing up as all of who you are here or are you still living inside the old patterns?

It seems harmless at first… You let something slide because you don’t want to start a fight, or you stay quiet to “protect” your relationship. In those moments, avoiding conflict feels like the right choice. Why rock the boat, right? But here’s what actually happens… The issue doesn’t get resolved :-( And you feel a little less connected to your partner. You see, every time you avoid bringing up an issue, it’s like putting another brick in the invisible wall between you and your partner. I completely understand why you might think you’re protecting your relationship by doing it. But that wall is blocking the very intimacy your relationship needs to thrive. So if you continue to avoid conflict to keep the peace, you’ll end up less connected because nothing gets resolved. And it you keep avoiding it then that emotional distance will quietly grow…. Romantic feelings then begin to fade... And soon, you avoid even more, because you don’t feel in love anymore. Avoiding conflict is basically a silent relationship killer. But know this… The very thing you’re avoiding is the exact doorway back into closeness.

There’s this very interesting book called “Letter To The Earth” by Elia Wise., it is written in that style called “Channeling’. There’s a very interesting chapter about love and relationships, I want to share it with you a fragment that help me, to stop doing that mistake., let me know what do you think?