Week 16: Breakdown of Emotional De Charge: 1. Ask someone if they have a negative emotion that they would like to de charge. 2. Ask the person to close their eyes take some breaths to relax and let their mind float back to when they first remember having the emotion before birth or after birth. Try to get them to remember back as far as before 7 years old. 4. Ask them to describe what happened Ask what caused the emotion ? Ask what was going on ? Ask what was the response, if any, to your emotion? 5. Now ask the person to float back to a time before they ever had the emotion. Ask what they were feeling then. 6. Now ask the person if they learned anything from the experience of having that emotion the first time they remember having it. Now ask if they have any positive thoughts about the experience. 7. Now ask the person to float back and observe the scenerio of when they first had the emotion. Ask them if they feel any different. 8. Now ask the person to float into the present and their experience of having the emotion now . Ask if they can think of the positive thoughts that they had before around the emotion. Ask if they feel any different. Ask if the negative emotion is still there. 9. Now ask the person to think about future circumstances where they may be triggered and have the negative emotion in the future. Ask if they will think differently then .Ask if they will be able to release the negative emotion and let it go in the future

I did this on myself. I was angry with my sister as usual lol. But I have decided that I want to have a good relationship with her so I want to de charge my anger. So I floated back to my first memory of being angry frustrated. I was a baby didn't even talk yet. My parents and relatives wanted to take a picture of me in front of the fireplace at my aunt and uncle's house. I had on a frilly short white Christmas dress. It was Christmas. Someone wound up a walking sante clause to get me to smile I think now but I wanted to go after it and catch it and kept crawling after it. Someone picked me up and put me back in front of the fireplace. I was mad and frustrated because I wanted that santa clause ! Then when I was sat back down to get my picture taken in front of the fireplace my brother gave me the Santa claus and I was happy. I floated back to before ever being angry frustrated and realized a feeling of anger and frustration came to me because I wanted something and someone was preventing me from having it. When I got the Santa clause I was happy and no longer angry frustrated. I floated to the present situation. I thought. I'm angry because my sister is preventing me from getting what I want .The internet connected. Her name is on the account not mine so the co won't let me do anything and she didn't do it yet . She was supposed to do it before she went to Colorado and now she's back and still hasn't done it yet. and then she told the cable co the wrong instructions! So I thought that is when alot of people get angry and frustrated when they are not getting something they want or something is not being done the way they want it. Someone else wants it done a different way or they are not giving you what you want or are preventing you from getting what you want. Frustrating!!!! Angry!!! Needs and Wants. Then I remembered the words to the Rolling Stones song : You can't always get what you want but if you try sometimes you might get what you need. So I thought well I'm mad because I want my sister to give up controlling everything! But that causes an argument if I go for that which I don't want . But what I really need is internet service! So if I'm nice instead of nasty I will get the Internet service and a peaceful harmonious relationship with her. If I'm nasty I won't get either! So if we don't insist on always getting what we want or the way we want things to go, instead we listen to what the other person wants and needs and work through the different desires perhaps compromising we can let go of anger and frustration and have better relationships! 😡 What's more important???? So I'll think of this in the future when I get triggered into anger frustration due to differences of opinion I want this and they want something different , and be able to let go and think.hoe can I bring about the best outcome? 😀

Hi Janet I recognize the name but I forget what Osso Bucco is! I think a friend of mine used to make it !

Life could be meant for learning through experience

@Ionel Claudiu Cernat Blessed is a woman who finds a husband who supports and appreciates her who believes in her capabilities and respectd her choices. Who can accept her as she is, without judgement. Who does not try to model her as his blueprint. Who is willing to work towards harmony with her seeing her as an equal . Thank you Ionel for the perfect words !

Love the Beatles! Thanks

By spending time with them listening and responding in a positive way. Making each other happy

Wouldn't that be great if all parents did that with their kids