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Why you should stop working on your relationship
People often talk about “working on a relationship” like it’s a renovation project… A list of repairs or a set of things to fix. I think that that language sets the wrong tone. If a relationship feels like constant “work” then something about the way you’re approaching it is off. I mean who really likes “working”, right? So if you’re “working” on your relationship, how much fun is that going to be? You can’t treat your relationship like a to-do list! When the focus is only on “working of your relationship”, the result is usually one of two things… Either you (or your partner) start policing everything that’s imperfect... Or The important, human parts get reduced to tasks and lists. And where’s the connection in that? Here’s a different approach… Instead of “working”… Just bring your best! That’s it. Bring your best. Now, “bringing your best” is not a directive to become perfect or to fix your partner. It’s an invitation to show up with clarity, curiosity, and care. When both people show up that way, small irritations don’t become battlegrounds and conversations stay compassionate instead of corrosive. Don’t worry, it’s not all on you, it’s on both of you. But it does start with you! Take responsibility. Contribute to the core essence of the relationship… The tone of conversations… How conflicts are handled… How gratitude is expressed… And the systems you create to stay connected. If you don’t bring your best, then what usually happens is someone or something gets picked apart. Stop trying to fix a thing and be present. Relationships aren’t projects to be finished; they’re practices we return to. Bring your best, not perfect, not fixed, just willing. That’s where connection lives. And that’s how relationships stop being “work” and start being life you both enjoy.
Why you should stop working on your relationship
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Thank you Ed ! Those 4 seem to be perfect to making relationships work without needing to be worked on !
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This post is ONLY for those currently on the Relationship You Deserve ICF Certified Coach Journey Anything you need, we are here for you. This post is to help you track your journey. Ask any questions that you need help with. Use this same post so it's easier for us to help you. Tasking is the pinned post in the updated each week
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I can see how it must be nerve racking to feel like your being looked at in an empty room not surrounded by other people feeling insecure about how you look Your nervousness makes sense and your anxiousness about how you look making you take extra time to get ready. does now . Is that how you feel,? Yes exactly I don't want to be late either ok let's take a deep breath together and another one in unison. Ok how do you feel now ? Are you ready to go? I hope you feel beautiful because you really are always no matter what you wear or how you do your hair . Come my queen let's go to the ball Next time instead of impatiently waiting I'll help you get ready and find your keys ! They both laugh in emotional safety.
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@Rocky Wilkins Wow well said !
How selfish are you in your relationship?
Here’s a gentle, uncomfortable consideration to sit with… How much of your relationship is really about you? Your needs. Your view. Your comfort. And how often do you truly see your partner? It’s normal to default to our own perspective and only see our own point of view. But sometimes we can get so caught up in our own perspective that we don’t really see our partner’s. And when that becomes habit… …it quietly erodes connection. Working through that and getting to a place where you understand that you've been more selfish is a crucial part of any relationship. It's hard for all of us to acknowledge that, to take on that less attractive part of ourselves. But ultimately, it's where your relationship will flourish. If you want something practical steps to help, try pausing before you make choices that affect both of you and actually ask. Practice reflecting back what your partner says before responding. And if you find yourself realizing you’ve put yourself first… Name it. Apologize for it. And take reparative action. These aren’t dramatic fixes; they’re just steady habits you can use to rebuild connection.
How selfish are you in your relationship?
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@Eduard Rijborz Sound like a Wonderful Life and a Wonderful Husband and Wife ! Thank you for your example that there are marriages that live happily ever after and how to make them that way
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Really like this Ed !
Weekend Reflections, Stronger Relationships Ahead ✨
Happy weekend to everyone 🤭 Weekends aren’t just for rest they’re also a perfect time to reflect and reset. As this month comes to a close, ask yourself: ❤️ How can I strengthen my relationships next month? How can I align my personal and business goals for real growth? What intentional steps will I take so my connections both personal and professional feel more meaningful? Strong relationships, like successful goals, don’t just happen. They’re built with clarity, consistency, and commitment. So as we step into a new month, let’s plan with purpose. The stronger the foundation we set this weekend, the better the results we’ll celebrate next month. What’s one relationship or goal you’re committed to improving before the month begins?
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@Silke Schellekens That's a great idea So you don't hear the beeps go off and want to get up and see what the beep was about! Lol I need to stop doing that as well and stop using my phone as an alarm ⏰ clock ! Use something else so I stop getting caught up in the phone when the alarm goes off and get up and be on time to work as well!
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Also I remembered what we learned in class now to think where the triggers may come from your past I'll journal that as well so I can be reminded
Welcome to The Relationship You Deserve Community
(Please take 1 min to read this entire post) This is a community for people who are committed to creating the relationships they truly deserve. For more than a decade, we’ve supported thousands in ✨ Healing past negative relationship patterns, ✨ Learning how to stop arguing and avoid conflict ✨ How to fulfil yours and your partner's needs. And now we’re here to help you do the same. ❤️ It doesn't matter if you are single ❤️❤️ or in a relationship 💕It doesn't matter what kind of relationship you want (It's not gender specfic) Whether you're looking to: ✨ Attract a new partner ✨ Fix your current relationship ✨ Heal your relationship with yourself ✨ Guide others into the Relationship They Deserve... As a new member, get ready for trainings and conversations on topics like: 💫 How To Heal Toxic Patterns 💫 How To Become A Secure Attachment 💫 How To Handle Conflict And Set Boundaries 💫 How to fulfil your and your partner’s needs… ...and so much more! Here's how to get the most out of this community… ✅ STEP #1) Introduce yourself and your relationship Challenge? Share who you are and what your biggest challenge is at the moment in your relationships? ✅ STEP #2) Download " The 3 Problems Stopping You From Getting The Relationship You Deserve & How To Fix IT HERE: Inside, you will find the exact steps that you need to fix your relationship patterns and get the relationship you deserve. Click here to download the guide now ✅ STEP #3) Access Your FREE Relationship Training Here: We work with our community incredibly personally to help them get the relationship they deserve. Start watching the training and taking the first steps to getting the relationship you deserve with our support: https://www.skool.com/the-relationship-you-deserve/classroom We’re super pumped to serve you. As always, no matter what happens Never give up on your dreams.
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@Eduard Rijborz wow that sounds great and from reading your other post about your life with your wife I can see how you can make this dream.og yours possible to come true ! Best wishes !
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Stephenie Mosher
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