Can You Help Me Understand This · The Relationship You Deserve

Can You Help Me Understand This

I have 6 roomies co-ed-not my preference. One is sensitive to smells & controlling. I eat & prepare fermented foods and I cook all my meals. He always looks to see what I'm preparing if in the kitchen and gives a verbal "uh" or "yuck". After I requested he turn down his music one night, he stated he wouldn't but did, suggested I get a tv, went into a tirade about his weeks long grievances (which answered why he would pass me without acknowledgement), spending too much time in the kitchen, taking over the refrigerator & kitchen & that I needed to move out because I am too vocal about house matters. He has enjoyed being the heavy and having the three guys cater to him. He was chiefly responsible for getting rid of the resident I replaced on breaking house rules-smoking, bringing overnight guest, etc. After speaking calmly and then raising my voice he retreated.

Any disagreements with the others is always settled. He is avoidant except in the kitchen. It feels like the kid who doesn't play well in the sandbox with others. I just want to drop kick him (he's shorter than me) like a football and let his butt bounce a couple times on the ground kind of like Lucy would do Charlie Brown-childish I know. I felt initially compelled to resolve this but since he feels no need, we pass each other without acknowlegment-weird. There is a good check & balance & safety system with the landlord and the renting company and I tightened up some of my takeover in the kitchen. Going from 1200 sq ft to house sharing requires adjustments. What do we have here?

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