Most people never say it out loud, not even to their closest friends, because admitting it feels like failure. Failure in the eyes of others. Failure in the story you told yourself. I see so many people in relationships where the spark is gone, but instead of doing anything about it, they just keep going through the motions. And why? Because they’ve been taught that silence proves strength. And because they think that if they talk about it with someone that could help, then the feelings they’d have to explore would be worse than the loneliness. But here’s what’s real… Silence doesn’t fix anything. It strips you down. The truth people rarely admit is that unhappiness can start to feel normal, and once it feels normal, it becomes dangerous. Because connection can survive conflict, but it cannot survive indifference. But unhappiness doesn’t have to be permanent. What breaks people isn’t the fights, it’s the silence. What destroys love isn’t struggle, it’s pretending everything is fine. When the truth is spoken… Without blame… Without hiding… There’s a chance to rebuild. There’s a chance to reset. There’s a chance to remember why you chose each other in the first place. So the question isn’t, is your relationship perfect? It’s, are you willing to be honest enough and get the help you need to bring it back to life?

I have been wanting to share with all of you, this fragment of this book: Power Vs. Force., about love! It surprises me from the first time I read it! But when I understand the difference between linear thinking, and nonlinear thinking, everything falls in place! I will posted the 3 parts below as a comment. I can wait to know what you think about it!?

By Erich Fromm… Is incredible to recap that the first edition was wrote in 1956, and yet it’s so universally up to date!!! Anyway, I have been thinking about this fragment from the Self Love part, because I want to shareit with you all: From this follows that my own self must be as much an object of love as another person. The affirmation of one’s own life, happiness, growth, freedom, is rooted in one’s capacity to love, i.e., in care, respect, responsibility, and knowledge. If an individual is able to love productively, he loves himself too; if he can only love others, he cannot love at all.

This might not sound popular… And some might say it’s a little harsh… But the reality is, when you find it hard to let go of something that happened in the past, it’s usually because you’re getting something out of it in the present. This is especially true in relationships. Holding on to a “victim story” can give you attention, compassion, sympathy, even entitlement or self-righteousness. And while those things may feel comforting, they also keep you from the love and joy you really want. The truth is, you can’t step fully into freedom and lasting connection while still clinging to the old story. At some point, you have to decide what matters more… Do you want to keep the comfort of the familiar? Or do you want to open yourself to the happiness waiting on the other side? When you let go, you stop surviving your story and start living your life. So let me ask you, what story might you be ready to release?

There’s this very interesting book called “Letter To The Earth” by Elia Wise., it is written in that style called “Channeling’. There’s a very interesting chapter about love and relationships, I want to share it with you a fragment that help me, to stop doing that mistake., let me know what do you think?