Isolating or consecrating? · The Emotionally Whole Family

Isolating or consecrating?

I am going through some tough stuff … I’ve felt worn from needing support or comfort, and it not landing in my support circle. When I am low, this adds more grief on top of what I’m facing. And it can be more disregulating.

I have adjusted my expectations and

I’m already quite careful about when or how often I reach out. Even with that, I feel processing is seen as me being stuck and faith or hopeless and the spiritual bypassing is real:

“Just trust Him.”

“You’re speaking death.”

“You’re cursing yourself.”

“Are you spiralling?”

It’s not that I’m chasing human comfort alone. He has been so near — carrying me through grief, growth, all my lamenting, and hurt when I feel alone … really I’m OK if that’s where he has me.

Still…as we know

We’re created to share burdens, to lift one another up, to be real. Connection is important.

I know they’re offering what they know. I don’t feel upset. Though I could use comfort and connection, I am tired and don’t( at the moment) have the capacity to teach or be put off by that as I’m processing these other things.

So for now, I’ve stopped reaching out.

If asked, I answer honestly ish—but save the real stuff for Jesus..

His comfort is the best …and at the same time I want to be discerning,

Is this :

Consecration — being led into the wilderness where He can speak tenderly to me.

Stewardship— resource management and wisdom to be careful of when, how, and with whom to share.

Or is it Isolation — withdrawing to protect my heart?

And maybe I should keep trying..

How do I know, am I self-protecting or answering His call to come away?

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