Here, I explain a bit about finding my voice after Narcisstic Abuse. I explain how empathy is connected toward considering someone's best interests so you can help someone by meeting their needs. The connection between trauma and disconnect, which develops our preferences. How service is a ministry, to meet a need, as is being in the people business. What trust is. When it's given, when it's earned. Adjusting your Social Contract with people. Looking for the double positives in relationships so you can have conscious collaborative relationships. How to love yourself and others when other peoples' love is fueled with unhealthy expectations. My song, The Social Contract, and the explanation of The 4 Agreements within it. Boundaries. Self-love. Connection. --- 06:40–13:00+ The "Social Contract": A 4-Point Framework for Healthy Relationships Point 1: "I am responsible for my own emotions." Adults must self-regulate; making others responsible for your feelings is a manipulation tactic. Point 2: "I am willing to improve and accept feedback." This openness is crucial for growth and indicates potential for a healthy connection. Point 3: "I will communicate to connect with people so I can be understood." The intention to connect is key, not just talking at someone. He warns against the toxic need to be understood, which can lead to "emotional vomiting." A healthy boundary is stating your needs and being willing to walk away if they are repeatedly violated. Point 4: "In acceptance of this family, I will also raise someone else." The goal is touplift the human spirit. --- #Boundaries #NarcissticAbuse #TheSocialContract

Upon sharing my ideas, someone just said to me... "It sounds like an awesome dive into the subconscious of someone who has a particular awareness that they use to develop a greater sense of inner self. A biography of sorts. I was intrigued because I have cameras I want to use, and I was considering filming my life, but needed a focus, a basis, or some relevant theme to share because while my life is fascinating to me, recording just to record may not fully capture what makes my life so thrilling. It is perhaps, my present state, having reprogrammed my subconscious, and knowing the difference that has made in my life which makes each day so amazing." Yes, this is true, and at the end of the day, the accomplishments and the achievements, the things you will become most proud of and can take with you will be your character. It defines you. Your skills, they make up what you produce. Your wisdom creates efficiency in the way you do you. All in all, how you approach life will change for your betterment - because the place you start from is in the right place. You've got your chaos in order. Getting to the next destination is just a step away. It's all in being all-in on the current piece for which you have to execute with, and moving it without having it wasted so you can learn the lesson, take it, and integrate it. That's what you're capturing. Be the hero in your journey, and when the opportunity calls, don't let it slip. #ADtalk it now.

It's a wonderful little trait that has us question ourselves and an other. Can we really mix? Are we really perfect as separate individuals, or consequentially as a whole? What is it that defines us within this role? . Compatibility comes down to how well when we two humans can relate to each other, can we live with each other without wanting to change one another. And how do we mean exactly? . Well, simply put, if there is something within you that brings out something within another that doesn't work between the two of you, and one of you wants the other to change, and the other is unwilling to do so, that therefore means that you are incompatible, and it is time you move forward without them if that incompatibility is a dealbreaker. . Don't get me wrong. Some relationships are worth retaining as some things are just resolved by not resolving them, small things where I am right and you are wrong doesn't matter and love needs to shine through... . But there are other things, major things, whereby one absolutely cannot tolerate within another, such as not being responsible for one's emotions and placing that responsibility for emotional regulation unto the other - whilst also creating problems and drama out of nowhere that makes it necessary to resolve their conflicts before the natural flow of the relationship can resume...And the one resolving the conflict wants them to stop, but they won't and don't want to, so the relationship ends - because their unmet need is to be seen in a way that helps them resolve their internal trauma at anothers' detriment. . In general, incompatibility comes as a result of one person experiencing a negative, and the other experiencing a negative or a positive, but because the person who is experiencing the negative cannot get the other to view their negative as a negative as well and convert their actions to align with what would give them a positive, it becomes a win lose scenario and in so doing, a lose lose because one person compromises, and the other is happy, and this will take a toll on the relationship short and especially long-term.

If you're struggling with loving yourself enough to do the right thing for yourself, I've got a solution for you! @Di Dutton here was held back by the fear and limiting belief that what they do can't be compensated for. Non-reciprocal relations based on her level of openness given her closedness to receiving is something she needs to open her beliefs in. If you're having trouble both giving and receiving at the same time, this video will be of help to you. This all relates back to the self-identity in connection to the other, and one's lifelong quest to learn to love the self and the other at the same time.