Incompatibility and Finding Compatibility in Your Relationships
It's a wonderful little trait that has us question ourselves and an other. Can we really mix? Are we really perfect as separate individuals, or consequentially as a whole? What is it that defines us within this role? . Compatibility comes down to how well when we two humans can relate to each other, can we live with each other without wanting to change one another. And how do we mean exactly? . Well, simply put, if there is something within you that brings out something within another that doesn't work between the two of you, and one of you wants the other to change, and the other is unwilling to do so, that therefore means that you are incompatible, and it is time you move forward without them if that incompatibility is a dealbreaker. . Don't get me wrong. Some relationships are worth retaining as some things are just resolved by not resolving them, small things where I am right and you are wrong doesn't matter and love needs to shine through... . But there are other things, major things, whereby one absolutely cannot tolerate within another, such as not being responsible for one's emotions and placing that responsibility for emotional regulation unto the other - whilst also creating problems and drama out of nowhere that makes it necessary to resolve their conflicts before the natural flow of the relationship can resume...And the one resolving the conflict wants them to stop, but they won't and don't want to, so the relationship ends - because their unmet need is to be seen in a way that helps them resolve their internal trauma at anothers' detriment. . In general, incompatibility comes as a result of one person experiencing a negative, and the other experiencing a negative or a positive, but because the person who is experiencing the negative cannot get the other to view their negative as a negative as well and convert their actions to align with what would give them a positive, it becomes a win lose scenario and in so doing, a lose lose because one person compromises, and the other is happy, and this will take a toll on the relationship short and especially long-term.